Is it normal that i don't care for a romantic relationship

A guy who I seeing but only through work seems interested in me. Our last shift he said he wanted to perform sexual acts out of work. This guy is in school and works part time. I'm out of school and only working. I believe the reason why I don't care for a relationship is because I have low self esteem and on my days off I binge drink. Rarely call in sick to binge for a few days.

Is It Normal?
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  • What a dull offer. Let's perform sexual acts.

    Not, want to go to a museum, or a sports event, or spend a day in a state/national park, or many other things... that could naturally lead to you two cuddling and having sex as a natural continuation of having a friend to do things with (although it might be multiple times doing things together before you start to have sex).

    Nope! Just straight up: I'm only interested in having sex with you.

    What a turn-off.

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    • He is in school and complains about being broke all the time. I'm more weary of him using me for money. For a few months I kept my distance away from him because I was overwhelmed and felt he came on to me too strongly

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      • I grew up in poverty, and was pretty broke in college as well at times. Parks, many museums, going to public concerts, even bars with live music, are free or very low cost.

        You can do fun things where you get to talk and learn about each other without spending much money...

        People have been causally dating before a romance for thousands of years - including people who were broke.

        He is coming on too strong. You might tell him that if you have any possible interest. Otherwise just tell him you are not interested.

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      • Dump him.

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      • Trust your gut. You females usually have good intuition when it comes to reading someone. You should probably stay away he doesnt seem like a good catch to me and he's a bum.

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  • Not a bad thing if you don't desire a relationship, it's your life and you can do what you want. However if you have self esteem or drinking issues you may want to see a professional.

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  • Perfectly normal. I have never had a relationship and never will. I've never been interested.

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  • It's normal to not care for a relationship.

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  • Maybe you are aromantic. I've never heard that low self esteem could make you not want a relationship but it's possible.
    You should get some help for your drinking though.

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