Is it normal that husband deleted texts after i snooped due to a suspicion?
I noticed recently that my husband sometimes closed his phone screen when I came near, and one time I saw the name Tammi- a name he has never mentioned (that I recall). I (shamefully) looked at their texts and discovered they had been talking for a month and met at a bar once, when he visited his hometown recently. It turns out she is the sister of one of his closest friends, from childhood. The text content was pretty innocent, except some playful teasing kind of bothered me.
The night they went out to the bar, they stayed out til midnight. The next morning I texted with him, and he never mentioned it.
Two days ago I admitted that I looked at his phone and questioned him about it, and he said it was just a night catching up with a friend, who he says is like a sister to him. She is married as well. I want to believe it was innocent. But it bothers me that he didn't tell me before or after the fact. I don't really think he physically cheated, but I feel like it's an emotional kind of cheating. We talked it out and set some boundaries.
The next day, I remembered that in part of their texts they talked about doing some voice messaging (talkbox), and so I asked my husband to let me listen to these. He told me he deleted most of the content of his phone, because he felt like he couldn't trust me to not snoop again. Is that normal for an innocent man to delete texts?