Is it normal some of my crushes were not sexual?

Got a co-worker that said that if a person has no sexual urges toward their crush, then something is wrong with them and they need to off themselves.

I've had many crushes over the years that weren't sexual. It was me getting butterflies everytime I imagined myself kissing, holding hands, and living with that person. Oh and thinking about that person constantly. Stuttering and being uncoordinated when I see them too.

I've also had some crushes that were sexual. Same symptoms as above, but with fantasies of bending them over and doing things to their ass.

I probably shouldn't take my co-worker too seriously. He's the biggest slacker there and he's probably getting fired soon due to messing up over 5 grand in frozen product. He somehow forgot he put the pallets outside.

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  • ospry

    Uhhh, your coworker sounds like an absolute psychopath. Saying something is wrong with someone for not having sexual urges toward their crush is fair. Saying that someone should kill themselves for not having sexual urges toward their crush...if I had to guess their mind has a lot of unpacking to do for that response to make any kind of sense

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Romantic and sexual feelings don’t always overlap, a some crushes are solely romantic and that’s ok. Anyone telling you to kill yourself over something like this doesn’t deserve an ounce of value assigned to their opinion.

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  • chiisana_izumi

    100% normal, humans might be animals but we have evolved to become very complex creatures socially, not everything in our world revolves around procreation.

    also seems like your coworker has bigger things to worry about besides whether or not someone wants to fuck their crush?

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  • Scouselad

    I had a crazy crush but I didn’t want to get her naked I like the thought of not knowing I ended up ducking her when older and she was shit haha

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  • Tommythecaty

    If they weren’t sexual they weren’t a crush.

    That’s just liking someone as one would a friend.

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  • bbrown95

    What!? He told you to off yourself!? What an asshole! You are right that he is a pathetic loser, and I don't think you should give him or his idiotic opinion any more thought! Sounds like he is one of those people who has a bad case of "verbal diarrhea"... everything that comes out of his mouth is shit!

    With that being said, it's entirely possible for crushes to be merely romantic and non-sexual. All of mine were, and I know many people who are the same way, especially (but certainly not limited to) women.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

    Um, stay away from your coworker. He sounds like a weirdo.

    Yeah that's normal.

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  • Tinybird

    "I've had many crushes over the years that weren't sexual. It was me getting butterflies everytime I imagined myself kissing, holding hands, and living with that person. Oh and thinking about that person constantly. Stuttering and being uncoordinated when I see them too."
    ^^^ still a sexual feeling, regardless of whether you have the urge to fuck them or not. The feeling is driven by the urge to procreate and bond towards a mate, you can deny it all you want, it's science. All crushes are sexual. I'm sick of having to explain this to you dummies.

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