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She is annoying spoiled little princess and I know I am a better mother figure to the child. She is too lax and spends a ton of money on him. I am super strict and children need structure. I hate that she gets so much child support from my fiance. She might guess it was me though, because I have been telling everyone I am gonna do it.
I don't see any criminal offenses in your committed by her, so calling the cops is out of the question. If you really wanna do something, your best bet is a civil court. However, I don't think you'll have much of a case there either.
It seems to me that your main concern is the money. But your fiance is the child's father and has a responsibility to pay towards the upkeep of his offspring. In your post you appear to create the impression that you would like your fiance to have residency of the child just so he doesn't have to pay maintenance, which is presumably because you want him to spend the money on you. You on the other hand would be, 'super strict' (your words) which presumably means you would spend as little as possible on the child and probably give him a miserable existence full of beatings and downright meanness. I hope for the sake of your fiance and his child that you end the relationship and go do your gold digging somewhere else. I'm sure in the long run your fiance would be relieved by his lucky escape.
First thing I would ask is "how does your fiancee and her get along?" If they are at least civil to each other, then if you call CPS then that could really derail any civility. Now on the other hand, if you know for a fact that there is reason to be concerned, and sadly being an "annoying spoiled princess" will not speed up any process to remove the child. The fact that she is also lax in her structure and discipline, there is a small chance on the lax in structure in that if the child gets out of the house without mom knowing, and say gets into traffic at 11:00 at night or something like that. Now if she is spending money on the child, well if she's buying the child junk food, fast food, or unless it's a knife or gun that may be hard to get CPS to investigate child mistreatment of some sort if there are no bruises or visible signs of a beating or malnutrition. So my suggestion- talk to your fiancee first. You may feel you are better for the child with more structure, discipline, and a no b.s. policy however, if the child's mom thinks that she is a better and more thorough lover to the baby daddy, does that mean she should be with him instead of you. Get your proof, your facts, your documentation no matter if it's pictures, or maybe a P.I. following her and documents her days. If she's leaving kid alone at home or putting stuff in a bottle of cup to induce sleep because she's in no mood to deal with child. Do you see where I'm going here? Good luck, think smart, and if you are going to play dirty, play it smart also.
Only do it if the children are in danger. In all honesty CPS doesn't do too much unless the kids are in very poor conditions due to the mother.
No. She is not mistreating the child. She isn't doing anything to harm him. Don't worry about her parenting skills. CPS has much more important things to do then worry about your bitterness. Let them worry about the kids being locked in closets and being starved, the kids being beat up, the kids really being REALLY hurt or killed. They already don't pay enough attention and you want to distract then with bs?
Grow up. If I was your fiance there is no way I would marry you if you threaten to put the CHILD through any of that. Mind your business and raise your own kids.
Go ahead and do it.Make sure you let her know you did it.That will really endear you to her heart.Because you know everything even though your older kids don't talk to you.
Your stepping out of line. You have no right to stick your nose in their lives,,sounds like your after the child support money.
So you're neither biologically related to the boy nor married to his father, and you're going to complain to Child Protection that the kid's mother is obnoxious to you, spoils him, and doesn't regularly whup his ass?
Good luck with that.
The key point here is that, at the moment, the boy's father is your fiancé. The kid and his mother aren't going to go away once you marry the man, so you're going to need to continue to deal with both of them for the indefinite future if you do get married.
If she really chaps your ass so fricken bad, then maybe you need to think again about what you're committing yourself to.