Is it normal not to be able to think of a single thing to say?

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A big part of my social anxiety is simply not being able to think of anything to say. Even when I'm really trying to talk to people I just literally cannot think of anything to say to them. I'll spend 10 or 15 minutes walking alongside them on the way to work, going out of my mind with stress trying to rack my brain for anything to say to them, and I wouldn't think of anything the whole way. And if people ever comment on something, like about something at work or just anything at all, I can't respond because I just cannot think of anything to say about that. So I just reply with an "Oh" or a "Mmm", which must make them think I couldn't give a shit. Taking part in conversations is impossible for me. Even if I do ever think of a reply to something someone has said, I'll think of it about 10 minutes later, after the conversation has switched topic about 5 times.

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  • angelbabyyy
    5 years ago

    OH MY GOD YES. This happens to me especially when I'm intimidated by the person talking. I just want to say the best thing so I panic so much that I can't think of anything. It sucks because usually, that person I wanted to impress thinks i don't like them which couldn't be further off from the truth. Social anxiety sucks ass but yes this is completely normal for those who have it.

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    • JellyBeanBandit
      5 years ago

      Thanks for the reply, it's good to know I'm not the only one.

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      • angelbabyyy
        5 years ago

        No problemo

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  • mc_abby
    5 years ago

    Sounds like anxiety, hun. The only thing that helps me are my antidepressants. They slow my brain down so I'm not panicking when people are talking to me. My anxieties stem from my insecurities and low self worth. When I'm off my meds and someone I dont know very well tries to talk to me, my mind goes blank and all I can think about is how stupid I am and how I'm so terribly awkward. My only suggestion would be to talk to your doctor about meds. Most anxiety meds make you drowsy or unfeeling. I personally prefer citalopram which is basically off brand celexa. No major side effects and I notice a huge difference in how I'm able to interact with people.

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  • SeekNPlay
    5 years ago

    Not normal , it is a form of anxiety attack or something. I’d suggest talking to yourself wherever you go. Ask your question about whatever it is that you see and answer it . It helps with what you are having.

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  • libertybell
    5 years ago

    I used to have this problem too, but eventually it went away.

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  • CupcakeLover14
    5 years ago

    Don't worry , your mind has learned something before it's been made conscious to your ego.

    You don't have to think of any thing to talk about or say to other people because you're better than them. Your brain or mind knows it would be an actual waste of your time because those people "you" seem to waste time trying to talk to will never be important to you now or in your future.

    Some people's minds are smarter than their self-awareness.

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