Is it normal my wife likes me to wear female underwear

About 6 months ago I came out the shower and opened my draw to get out clean underwear and there wasn’t any in there. My wife then told me she had thrown it all out and told me to borrow some of her knickers. I was stunned and asked what she was on about. She told me she hatted my underwear and had decided to do something about it. I didn’t have time to argue with her as I had to get to work so reluctantly went along with what she said. When I got home that night she said she had bought me some replacement underwear and handed me a carrier bag, when I looked inside there were several pairs of knickers in varying styles. I asked what she was playing at and she told me it’s what she wanted me to wear from now on. I objected but she was having none of it. She told me if she ever found me wearing male underwear again I would regret it. She didn’t explain this threat and we rowed but in the end I gave in to her. Now she says she feels it’s time to introduce me to other underwear such as camisoles, teddy’s, tights and stockings. She also came home with a sexy night dress for me to wear even though we both normally sleep naked and she doesn’t have any sexy nightwear of her own. I have reluctantly accepted the knickers and kind of got used to it but should I be worried about where she is going with all this, we have been together over 20 years and she has never before behaved like this.

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  • Can't you just ask her what's changed after 20 years?

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    • I did she told me the kids grew up and left home and she went through the menopause. Now she wants to have ‘our time’

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  • Dude I think she might be a lesbian and she's trying to stay attracted to you.

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  • It's not her place to throw out your male underwear, and expect you to wear whatever she prefers.

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    • Yeah, that's really bossy. It sounds as if she wants a dom/sub relationship, but she didn't get his consent first and that's unethical. It would've been ok if she'd playfully hidden his undies and replaced them with women's undies, but not the way she did it.

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      • If I were that guy, I would leave her, but I guess it's up to him. I'm not a fan of controlling people. My stupid ex actually wanted me to switch brands of cosmetics that I buy at the department store, because he had seen ads for one brand, and liked it better. He also wanted me to dye my hair purple for his crazy ass.

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        • The bloke I was married to many decades back (now dead) was always looking at Playboy magazines and telling me I'd look just like those women if I'd dye my hair blonde. I didn't actually do it until long after he was dead and hated it!

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          • Yeah, I don't think I'll be dying my hair purple. I do like that rosegold color that has become popular. I remember we went to this place called Sally's Beauty Supply, and I was actually looking at the different purplish colors, and then this young lady who was probably half my age said to me, "well, it is your hair". Her comment served to snap me out of whatever state I was in at that moment, and I made the conscious choice to buy the same color that I liked, and I always bought for myself.

            Now, I haven't dyed my hair in almost two years, and I can't help but to notice that there's a lot of white on my head. My mom is 80, and I think the white on my head at nearly fifty years of age may actually come close to what she's got, or at the very least I'm pretty sure I have more white hair than she did when she was my age.

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  • a weird fantasy.

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  • Just a reminder, there is such thing as crossdressers that are not "sissy" or pussy whipped. Just because women's feel better than mens, no reason to hate. Lol

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    • I don’t have an issue with people cross dressing if that’s what they want to do, nor do I have an issue with people being gay or lesbian or anybody who has some unusual fetish. I say live and let live. But it doesn’t mean it’s something I want to do myself

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      • So have you say down with her and talked about it ? You are an adult and you do have a say in the matter (Don't you)? But just remember how much more comfy the women's panties are compared to mens. Lol. I agree, you shouldn't have to do anything g you don't want to do.

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        • I take your point but she can be extremely unpleasant to live with when things don’t go her way.

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          • OMG, A Friend had one of those. She is a control freak bitch from hell. PLUS she's not even the least bit cute to help trying to balance and justify things. Nope, I could never get that drunk. {shivers down my back}. If it's something you are not fully into doing because you think it might not be fun because she demands it of you. If I were in your shoes,I would ask her twice to drop it, leave it alone, and no you are not into it (or else let her try finding another roommate/husband). She might be trying to get you into a position of where she might want to try to blackmail you into other things. i.e: if you don't do the next thing she tries demanding you do, or she might want to try making you think she will tell your buddies wives, or your buddies that "you have been wearing women's panties for the last however long". Tread carefully, sleep with both eyes open. Keep an extra eye on her actions.

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            • Thank you for your multiple responses. It’s a couple of weeks now since I posted this and things have moved on a little. I have somewhat reluctantly agreed a compromise with her. She claims the thought of me being slightly feminised is a huge turn on for her and admittedly our sex life has improved somewhat over the past few months since this began. On that basis I have agreed to wear the sexy nightwear and obviously the knickers have been part of my daily routine for several months now. I have also agreed to wear additional feminine underwear provided she doesn’t ask me to wear it to work. In return for not wearing the other stuff for work I have agreed to give her daily morning orgasms. For her part of the bargain we will have sex at least three times a week. Not exactly a traditional way of living but for the happy sex life I can certainly live with it for the time being

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  • Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. Stand up for yourself.

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  • Well, damn yout wife has some kinks.

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  • Seems like she wants you to become a sissy and wants to play the dominatrix role....get the f out of there ASAP

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  • Get a divorce start saving for a good lawyer or idk make it work

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    • The thing is since this all started our sex life has improved dramatically. Until 6 months ago we would only make love about once or twice a month and sometimes less than that. Since this started she frequently wants an early night and asks me to bring her to orgasm with my tongue or fingers, this happens 3 or 4 nights a week and most Saturday and Sunday mornings and most weeks that is followed by me making love to her at least 2 or 3 times a week. Add to that the fact I love my wife and don’t want to imagine my life without her. I’m not keen on the knickers but I have got used to it and it doesn’t bother me so much anymore, and the improved sex life compensates for that. What really concerns me is all this talk about introducing other underwear and night dresses, I’m worried where she is going with all this.

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      • If she only wants organisms by your tounge or fingers and she wants you to wear woman stuff....I think she may be lesbian....

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        • Organisms?????? If she were lesbian she'd be with a woman, not a bloke!

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        • She has always found it difficult to cum during intercourse, she doesn’t blame me for that but she says it’s probably a big part of why our sex life had become such rubbish over the years. She went through an early menopause a couple of years ago and says she believes that added to the problem. She now claims to feel comfortable in her body again (don’t quite understand what she means by all that, but obviously as a man I’ve never had to deal with menopause). She says with the kids grown up and left and menopause behind her, it’s our time now and time to make new life choices. I asked if she would prefer to be in a lesbian relationship but she claims absolutely not she just finds it a huge turn on to have me more in touch with my feminine side. She says she loves her orgasms these days and that’s why she is always on my case to make her cum, she says it’s my payback to her for all the times in the past when we had sex and she didn’t cum. She says she would be quite happy just to make love once every 3 or 4 weeks or even less than that, but she does it much more frequently now because she loves me and because I give her so many wonderful orgasms. I am very confused with all this, I love her and don’t want a divorce but it’s like she has this whole new personality that I don’t recognise and I am struggling to be the person she seems to want me to become.

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      • Just relax and enjoy it!

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      • It sounds as if you've weighed up the undies with the improved sex life and gone along with it, but I do not agree that she should've done this without your consent. She wants a dom/sub relationship, but imposing this on you with no communication is a red flag, so you're right to wonder how far she's going to go with this.

        Can you set some boundaries? Have you told her you're concerned about where this is going? If there's no communication, what sort of a relationship is this anyway?

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      • Welp...better get use to calling her master

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