Is it normal my mind prevents me from progressing?

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I talked about this in a recent post but people didn’t seem to get it so I’ll try to explain better.

Without getting into specifics, let’s just say that in recent years I’ve felt behind in life, and often times when I try to make progress my mind goes back to thoughts of these people, especially a certain old friend of mine, and it prevents me from making progress.

But here’s where the misunderstanding came in: people thought I was blaming others for my problems, but the point is is that I realize that I used to blame others, but NOW I KNOW that I’M the one causing these problems, and it’s MY OWN MIND that’s affecting me, NOT anything that anyone else is doing or has done, but the fact that MY MIND continues to think about them, especially when I feel I’m finally making progress, and my problem now is trying to move forward without these obsessive thoughts about the past.

I really hope I expressed that clearly enough and anyone who wants to help can give me some recommendations of what to do because I don’t want to spend the rest of my life stuck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago

    You're never not going to forget. You can see tons of evidence in how a river changes its course, for example

    It's kind of a blessing in disguise to remember things like that, it helps keep you humble. Like for example if you're afraid to touch things on the stove because you've been burned before

    The next step you should consider is learning how to be able to remember and think about those things without them negatively affecting you. A trick I'm using is figuring out how to use things like that positively

    I once heard an explanation of spiritual growth and development like it was a spiral, some points you're gonna be really on your A game and others you're gonna be in your lows, and like you said it's up to you how you respond to things

    If you've looked into or are interested in more of the metaphysical aspect of development, there's a point in your chakras that basically flips everything around like a mirror does, and this was explained with the Fibonacci sequence and the bodies natural torodial (?) field. The idea is when you start using like the crown or third eye or throat (?) Chakras (or using mental energy in the capacity the chakras are ascribed) there's a flip in how information is presented/received, which I think could be related with where you're at

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    • Hubbard
      3 years ago

      Why the question marks?

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      • [Old Memory]
        3 years ago

        I don't know how to spell torodial but I used phonetics as best as I could

        I'm not sure if it's the throat chakra, but it's like the top 2 or 3 chakras

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    I also have been thinking this about myself. I’m gonna work on being a productive adult.

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  • bbrown95
    3 years ago

    I can kind of relate, and I think it's normal.

    I had a friend I really cherished cut me off for no reason known to me and since I had already been dealing with some hardships with other friends (as well as a very manipulative and borderline emotionally abusive friendship), it affected me a lot more than it probably should have. I kept analyzing over and over what it was I did to make him do that, and could not stand the fact that I didn't have some sort of closure. I would start to move past it, and then an old memory would come back and make me sad about it again. I let this affect me for way too long and distract me from focusing on myself.

    Finally, I just had to tell myself "enough is enough" and tell myself that I was not going to let someone who is no longer in my life and frankly turned out to not be as good of a person as I thought they were have any power over me or my life. This takes processing whatever is conflicting you first, but eventually you will move on. It will likely be slow and gradual, but you will eventually get there.

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    • Hubbard
      3 years ago

      Thanks, this really helped me. Another method is to think of it like you’re old life and this is your new one

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      • bbrown95
        3 years ago

        No problem, I'm glad it helped! That is a good way to look at it as well!

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    Stop giving a shit and get on with it you fuckin’ dildo

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