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we have two bathrooms and they wont let me lock the door when i shower , they say when you grow up you will understand , im a 16 year old girl , can any parent explain ?
They are afraid you'll slip and injure yourself in some way and they'd be unable to assist you. It's all about a paranoid fear that you'll do something clumsy and require medical assistance. The door being locked complicates things and will delay their aid to you that they believe you'll need.
Or they're just perverts and they want to have the option of peeking at you.
It's one of those two things.
Safety. That's what I was going to say. I do the same with my kids. Also there's often times when they need my help with something or need a towel or whatever. Pain in the ass if the door is locked and they get water all over the floor walking over there to unlock it.
16 is a bit old though to be that worried about. Plus, privacy is very important at that age. I will probably let go of this rule soon, my kids are 10 and 12.
I hope it's safety in OP's case too and not the pervert thing.
I'm only 15 myself, but I'd say they do it for your safety. In case you were to slip and fall in the shower or something.
im saying not normal lol. like i lock it. im the same age as you.
and i lock it. i mean if i was to slip. they can come in from the outside with a key. the shower it self cant be locked. but the room the leads to shower, outside and has the washing machines. idk what the room is called lol. well anyway they can go around from outside if they think i've been in the shower too long :) i think its good to lock the door X___X (ok might be just me, being suspicious)
I had an issue like this with my father in my late teens/early twenties. I think in this case it was about control - control was a way of emotional self-soothing for him I think. He solved the problems in his life around that time by creating 'rules' - there was one about not locking the bathroom door too, as I recall. I tended to hide everything, put up barriers and be secretive as a teenager and it upset him. He bound me with rules as you might train a plant by tying it to a stick - perhaps because if freely given access to my life wasn't possible, then control of it was the next best thing. But here I'm speculating. I did it because there were things in my life that I knew my parents didn't or wouldn't approve of. I was a very sensitive kid, and more than they perhaps realised, their criticisms had placed tight limits on what I perceived I was allowed to feel or think, or what expression I was allowed to wear on my face, since I was very young. So as a teenager I hid myself from them, knowing that if the tip of the iceberg offended them, the rest would be beyond words. This really, really upset my father, and he tried to 'solve' it by creating more rules. He would not tell me why they were necessary unless I utterly insisted and he gave the information often only after I fought for it (the fact that I asked for reasons was 'proof' in his eyes that I didn't trust him, and this devastated him). As a result, I was even less inclined to trust him...
In response to OP, if your experience is like mine, and it's a matter of control, the issues might run deeper and the rules might be a 'band aid' over your parents' emotional wounds or parental disappointments...
Some families just have a simple household rule, that is no doors locked. It's mostly for your own safety though. I once saw that in a movie and the girl had to sing in the shower to prove to the parents she was alright as the mother had submitted to her request of locking up the door for that one time only.
Normal for me too. I Was never allowed to lock ANT door in the house without permission. I slept with the door open too. Some families are just like that... They always knocked before entering so that's all that mattered
My brother used to scare me in the shower. He would push through the curtains. He did this every day when I was a kid. It got to the point where I would wait for him and I still couldn't hear him. I don't think we had a lock at that time either
Like other users have stated, it's probably for your safety. But I don't think it's normal at that age. Even if you somehow need the help of your parents while in there, they can just lock pick the door. I can do it with my fingernails and I'm a guy.
Well the fact they knock is shocking. Most people have a habit of barging in then are like whoops! I guess in that case it might be safety.
That's better than my family XD
My mom, grandma, and sis will walk right on in stand there and have a full conversation with me. I have a glass shower door with no curtain. Lol they do the same when I'm using the restroom, but to be fair I do the same thing to them. There is no such thing as privacy in my family lol.
Anyway I'm pretty sure your family just wants to be able to get in in case of an emergency, like you slipping.