Is it normal i want to grow up asap and gtfo of here?

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I hate how my life has been going so far. Of course I have good memories and have met a few good people. I even have a girlfriend (though I haven't seen her in a month since she moved and idk if I'll even see her in person again). I just want to move onto my next stage in life asap. I'm a teenager and I just want to grow up and leave this shit hole (I live in the poor btw). I hate how my parents treat me sometimes, though I obviously care about them since they are my parents, I just want to get away from them asap. Almost every friend I've ever had has abandoned me for what ever the reason (I might even be at fault I just don't know). I want to find people I can be real with and find my own life and have a purpose. I might even break up with my gf though I love her I just don't know if we'll even meet irl again. Idk am I being ignorant or stupid to wanting to be free? Is calling it free stupid?

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Based on 21 votes (18 yes)
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  • Anonymous Post Author
    5 years ago

    1.Don't be a dick
    2.I didn't even shorten that many words you old snob

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      Psst . . . I'll let you in on secret, not all spelling/grammar "snobs" are old, or snobs. Some are simply more fastidious about communicating clearly, which is more easily accomplished by following standardized rules of grammar. Though I'm "old" now, since middle school English class, I've been a proponent for good writing skills. Try not to take it personal, m'kay?

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      • sissycakes
        5 years ago

        i could understand the post just fine. sometimes people get caught up in grammar issues instead of what a person is actually saying. noone really needs to be judged on this site for something so trivial as grammar. there are worse things said on here that may need to be addressed. sorry, but sometimes you may need to clarify what a post means but otherwise not that big of a deal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    I remember feeling similarly as a youth. It's perfectly normal. You'll find out soon enough how difficult it is to manage adult responsibilities though, so try to make the best of your youth, and remember: IT GETS BETTER.

    Later in life, you'll look back upon this time in your life with different eyes, realizing your imperfect parents likely did the best they could, with what they had going for them. Hang in there.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      by the way thanks for actually answering

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        You bet!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I do understand that my parents try. They are people too. I don't blame them very much for anything it's just sometimes it can be a toxic environment. If that makes any sense. It's hard to think that I would look at this from the future and be happy though. People said that when I was a little kid. That I would look back when I was a teenager and think about wanting to be a kid again. Childhood is looked upon as such a happy place when you are older for a lot of people. But I still can't see it that way since I wasn't happy. So how could it be seen so fondly? That's why I don't think I would ever want to go back here.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Yes, it makes perfect sense to me. It wasn't my intent to say you'll look back w/fond memories, but that life experience will teach you a deeper understanding of the struggles of your parents.

        I wouldn't go back to my childhood for anything! Raised in a highly toxic/dysfunctional environment, my childhood was rife with abuse, and I’ve barely any happy memories. Trust me, you are FAR from alone in experiencing a sucktastic childhood.

        Just saying that is sad to me. It should not be like that for any kid.

        For many years, well into adulthood, I struggled with the aftermath of that abuse, and I still have struggles with anxiety in crowds, but I’m much happier now. Tons of counseling, beginning in adolescence and off & on into my 30s, plus education in psychology, helped mitigate much of the psychological damages of those childhood traumas. Also, forgiving my parents set me free from the terrors of the nightmare that was once my life.

        No matter how far away from that toxicity you go, the memories, feelings and perceptions you carry will follow. Wherever you go, there you are. I hope you find positive, well informed support, as the burdens of trauma cannot be thought away.

        Thank you for sharing, and try to remember, seasons change, as do problems.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    Start by paying your parents bills. Rent or mortgage, food, gas, utilities (water, electric, cable, trash), clothing, insurance (car, medical, renters or mortgage).

    See how that goes and let us know how free you are. Since you are "poor", it shouldn't be a big deal right?

    If you can do that, its time to move out.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I totally understand the struggle and I fully plan on going to college and getting a good job.

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  • MrDoggyDongers2005
    5 years ago

    You're welcome.

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  • MrDoggyDongers2005
    5 years ago

    Nice english.

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