Is it normal i took my fear of driving this seriously?

You know a fire could break out in your house and you can still die. Or a tornado rolls through. Or you get shocked...
There are many, many ways to die. Don't sit there thinking how you can die. Just enjoy life.

Nobody close to you died in a car accident, you just read a story about a friend, whose friend died. This does not impact you. So you have no reason for this toxic behavior. People die every day in accidents, from diseases, disasters shot, beaten, etc...

Enjoy life, go out, have fun, hang out with friends. Live!

What about swords... Those were used to kill millions of people throughout history. Should you hate and avoid knives? No.
You have to learn to get over this irrational fear. Get professional help if you must, but you can not confine yourself to never leaving the house.

Also cars are probably the most important invention of the 20th century. Our modern way of life and economy was built around the internal combustion engine. Everything you eat, everything you own, the bricks in your house, your clothes.

All have been transported by trucks, vans, cars, etc.

People put their hearts and souls into making cars not only a tool that gets you from A to B, but also an art form.
You can not look at something like a C1 Corvette and not appreciate the beauty.
You can not look at an engine and not love the technology and incredibleneess of this machine that turns dead dinosaurs into raw power, with temperatures inside peaking over 1000C, pistons going up and down 26 times a second at idle and turbochargers spinning at over 500000rpm.
Brilliance at it's finest! A symphony of mechanics.

And while driving can be dangerous, if you are smart about it, it can be a very pleasing experience.

I love driving! I love it so much it's in my username XD
I love cars! I got 5 cars and would gladly buy a 6th one in the future.

Ah I remember those days.

In high school they would show us those imported European car crash commercials, which were so graphic.. holy shit. I think the worse one for me was the "wear your seatbelt," commercials. It'll show teens driving as safe as possible and someone else speeds and hits them, but the impact wouldn't be as bad if everyone had their seatbelt on, it was crazy. They even had one where the driver was wearing a seatbelt but her dumbass friend wasn't and when someone speed into them, the impact made the friend's body hit the driver, killing her and the leaving the friend in critical condition. That fucked my world up. It was so bad that when we had to drive a little in Driver's ed in the school parking lot, I failed because I refused to do it.

But anyway, once I got older (18 years old) and needed to drive to college because the bus didn't come out to my area. A private driving instructor was hired, and he wasn't worried since he had breaks on the passenger side and could stop the car at any moment. Basically, to keep the story short, I was so scared the first few minutes into the lesson I almost crashed the car into a wall and was about to duck & roll out the vehicle to save myself. Thankfully, the instructor was calm, stopped the car and told me to breathe. He had a lot of patience, because I was a hot mess those first few hours.

Anyway, the whole point to me telling you this is that don't let your anxiety and fear hinder you. You can die from various things, which is scary, but life is about taking risk, living, and making a difference no matter how small. Because I learned how to drive: I was able to go to college and work, run errands, I was able to drive my mom home after her surgery, and be independent.

My only advice is, use your anxiety to your advantage while driving. Keep 300% focus on the road and watch the cars around you. You'll eventually learn to read the driving moments of others, like who is drunk/sleepy, those who have anger issues, and so on; it's like playing chess; once you can identify the pieces you can predict their moves and act accordingly.

Your fucked in the head. You worry to much about life to enjoy it.

I should say that I sort of fall in and out of this attitude, and I’m not like this all the time.

"A part of me wants to, just to get it over with, but that would mean getting a job and being an adult and whatnot, and just adding a risk that doesn’t need to be there."

Go get professional help. You're an adult. You cant leech off someone else forever. This mindset is only going to lead to a very lonely and homeless future.

I will repeat the suggestion I'm sure I made to you a while ago: GET SOME PROFESSIONAL HELP for this phobia, or if you're happy as you are do nothing.