Is it normal i'm confused with feelings for a guy & a girl?

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I am 21f and dated my driving instructor for a bit...I was attracted to hid mind.
When we kissed I didn't feel any sparks like you're supposed to immediately? I thought maybe give it time but he said something at one point that seemed like a red flag so I stopped seeing him. He has recently contacted me though & we have made amends.
On the other hand...I actually feel something towards my cousin but I'm still trying to work these feelings out.
I always miss her like mad if we go a weekend not seeing each other. As a matter of fact I could easily talk to her every day and miss her voice if I haven't spoken with her for few days. When I'm around her I have this strong pull to want to hold her hand, hug or kiss her (not sure if I'd like to make out)...
So I'm confused? I feel my feelings are stronger for my cousin and they should be for the guy I was seeing. What does this all mean ? Help?

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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

Ps- I'm actually looking for real advice from someone who has actually experienced real feelings not from a critical, shallow minded twat.

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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

Wtf is wrong with you jerk ass? Just because you stick your dick in any hole possible doesn't mean that girls function this way. Smh
When it comes to matters of the heart its not about fucking someone but being with them (in their presence).
For the record dating a first cousin isn't incest so grow up ignorant imbecile.

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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

Plain and simple it's not incest. Secondly I'm a girl so it's not like I can get her preggers.

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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

Its not incest! I've been told first cousins is fine just not the rest.
I'm not sure why you would post a comment if its such a stupid post (objectively speaking), you must be stupid yourself.

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Ratmanwakes

6 years ago

Hmmm. . . you are at a cross road in your life. So fuck it! Instead of your cousin, why not start having sex with the family dog? Less pressure don't you think?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Yeah u would do that because you're a guy so would pull on their pig any day and every day and fuck anything that breathes.
  
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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

Its not incest

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BahmBitosWhap

6 years ago

fuck the law

didnt you learn anything

where is incest mentioned in the bible to be morally wrong?

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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

Welcome

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carebear666

6 years ago

its normal to have feelings for a boy and a girl. its not normal to have feelings for your cousin.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  OH well
  
  Can't help feelings
  
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  - carebear666
    
    6 years ago
    
    no, but you can get help
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Help for what?
      Loving someone isn't a sin.
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      - carebear666
        
        6 years ago
        
        incest is a sin
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        But its not incest
        Again loving someone isn't a sin
        
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AndrogynousBoy

6 years ago

Obviously it's not plain sisterly love you feel towards each other. Not saying those feelings will last forever, it might be temporary state of affection since you spend so much time together and if the feelings are mutual you shouldn't give a damn about what society thinks and just kiss eachother whie running fingers through hair, caress shoulders and etc what lovers do.
Just keep in mind that at any point of your lives either of you might come across a person that you could find more attractive. Like work colleague that you or your cousin would spend eventually more time together then the two of you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Well you know you could say that about any potential couple ...anyone could start feeling more attraction for some other person than their "current" crush
  
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  - AndrogynousBoy
    
    6 years ago
    
    Yes and at no point I said it doesn't apply for hetero couples. I just had to specifically point out that this applies to those girls as well because from what I conclude they are their first and only big loves in their lives and being this young they have yet a lot of potential to experience many things.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      ?
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      She's not exactly young...she's 37
      
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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

I told her I love her unconditionally tonight & she said she feels exactly same..

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  She says things like how she thinks of me all the time ..sweet things like that...i dk if its romantically inclined though..we are touchy feely in person tho like we sometimes hold hands :3
  
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  - BahmBitosWhap
    
    6 years ago
    
    i dont think its sexual though
    
    I think you two just love each other in a brother and sister way
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      No I definitely don't feel its sisterly
      ..I don't feel or act like this with my sister.. I feel an attraction with my cousin, like always wanting to hold her & we are playfully flirty
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        Like once she said she was going to wish me a happy valentines & thought it to be a bit inappropriate so didn't.
        I mean, if she really didn't feel anything romantically inclined, why hesitate to simply wish a happy valentines. I think this is a hint don't u? Another time she commented on my jacket , I said something & she said yeah I always check u out. We have intense eye contact too like soul mate material. Always smiling at each other
        
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        BahmBitosWhap
        
        6 years ago
        
        that is true
        
        wow, well maybe she thought of not saying happy valentines, because she thought it would be inappropriate, to give YOU the wrong idea
        
        maybe she didnt want to give you the wrong idea, not that shes gay herself
        
        but who knows, depends on how you look at it
        
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RoseIsabella

6 years ago

What was the red flag thing he said? Sorry, but I'm kinda curious.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  He asked if I was a virgin
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    6 years ago
    
    Right on, that's kinda a creepy douchebag sort of thing to ask. Yeah, there are people who get off knowing they've takin someone else's virginity, like it's some sort of game.
    
    Forget about those assholes, their not worth your time.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Yeah I was so disappointed but he is always concerned about my back so usually asks about how it is and said he read that being a virgin can cause back pain...wtf ?
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        6 years ago
        
        Yeah, that's the biggest line of sit I've ever heard. No offense, but that guy doesn't care about you, he's just a piece of shit asshole. Try to keep him at arm's length from here on out.
        
        Yeah, that guy is a completelyrics untrustworthy bastard.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        But I've known him for about 2years plus and he's always been there for me me..despite him not getting sex if that's all he wanted?
        
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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

That's wrong.

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BahmBitosWhap

6 years ago

fuck the law nigga

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Anonymous Post Author

6 years ago

Its not.
Plain and simple

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- carebear666
  
  6 years ago
  
  no man it's legally, scientifically, 100% incest. it's not a matter of opinion. it just is.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    6 years ago
    
    Its legally not wrong in my country!! I have been told first cousins is legal just not 2nd,3rd e.c.t
    
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    - carebear666
      
      6 years ago
      
      other way round
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        No its the right way around
        
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        carebear666
        
        6 years ago
        
        no, a first cousin is too closely related to you and you share too much of the same genetics and it is incest. it is the 2nd cousin (I think) that it becomes legal in some places.
        
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SmokeEverything

6 years ago

You realize sex between more then 2 people is possible right?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Yeah I understand that..
  
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  - SmokeEverything
    
    6 years ago
    
    That is a possible solution to your problem, of course the prude trollers on here will downvote my comment. Alcohol and coke will also help if you choose to go the group sex route.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      No I'm not into drugs, that's crazy
      
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      - SmokeEverything
        
        6 years ago
        
        I'm trying to help. Maybe drugs would help also...
        
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        6 years ago
        
        No definitely not
        
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