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People feel sorry for me think it's sad, but I dont. I'm very happy and having the time of my life. I have my family.
I've gotten to the point in my life where I have exactly 0 friends. I've never been happier. Its just me, my wife, my cat, and the pit bull next door that I play with.
I've learned in the past few years that friends can become a liability. They have a tendency to bring their problems along with them.
At times, I think socialization is more abnormal than spending time alone. Think about what people do in the name of popularity...fraternity initiations, high school cliques, drinking alcohol until your liver hurts at parties. I think being able to manage completely alone is a sign of strength and, for some, wisdom.
Everyone is different and finds happiness in things that others mind find silly or dull. Although my oppinion is that no matter how close you are to your family it never hurts having one or two close friends. Plus friends are also our family, we only give it a different name!
Also people that feel sad of others just because they can't understand their lifestyle are sad themselves!
I agree with gazorpazorpfield. Just because someone else is so insecure that they would feel like something is wrong with them if they didn't have friends, they assume that there's something wrong with you if you don't. That's absurd and not a little bit arrogant.
I moved (way) out of the area for many years, and when I came back I had two kids, and I'm their only parent. I'm taking care of and raising them, not socializing. It's not like I can't have friends, I just don't happen to right now. It's not a problem for me, so why would it be a problem for someone else? If I socialized, I'm sure I'd have friends just as I had before. But if I don't, so what? It's not something I need, even though it's something I like.
I like pumpkin pie when there's pumpkin pie. If there's no pumpkin pie, I don't feel sad or empty.
for the first million years we only saw our tribe , and that would mean your brothers and sisters basically. we would fuck them when we got horney.
I happier without friends and currently only have one person I chat with. We mainly just text and meet for coffee or lunch every few months.
I have enough going on and I can't stand all the drama or time commitments that comes with having friends.
I may be selfish but it is my life and you only get one. Do what makes you the most happy 😊
It's ok.
You can do you, and if you don't need others then it's alright.
A buddy of mine used to say he didn't need a car, he was fine walking everywhere. "I like the exercise" he used to say. I always used to look at him sideways when he said that, since he started preaching this new dogma right when all of us got cars and he didn't.
At first we thought he was just salty, but turns out he was practicing what he preached. Whenever we went out to do something he'd reject our lifts, never asked anyone for a ride. Not even when he had to walk home from a seedy disco at 3 am through one of the more... 'troubled' neighborhoods. The guy was always steadfast in his rejection of motorized transportation.
Until one day when we planned a trip across state. He really wanted to go, I could tell, but he didn't want anything to do with cars. We tell him it's ok, he can get a ride with us no problem, we weren't gonna rag on him, he wasn't betraying his morals etcetera, etcetera. He agrees.
On the day of the trip we meet up at my house to get things ready; final checks, make sure everyone brought what they had to, counting up how much cash we needed for gas. All that fun stuff. Then out of nowhere this guy, Mr. "I don't need a car" pulls in in his dad's brand new Corvette. Then he gives us some bullshit about not having enough space in his car to carry anything and how he couldn't fit anyone in his car.
After that we changed the trip's destination without telling him and left. He got lost somewhere in Oakland and ended up with four traffic tickets.
Point is, if you show up unprepared, don't expect to succeed.