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I am a 20 year old girl and I got into a fight with my mom because she doesn't give me enough freedom. My mom doesn't let me go places without a babysitter. I was yelling at her about it and she hit me. I am just wondering if that's normal that she hit me.
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So fake, unless you are literally retarded. "Babysitter" at age 20? You mean caretaker ?? Learn to fight back and move out already ffs. Unless you are legit retarded/autistic then tell your caretaker you're being abused
I think that "babysitter" is the right word. "caretaker" makes it sound like i am very sick or mentally disabled and can't take care of myself. if i say i am a 20 year old who gets "babysat", then that makes it sound like someone is treating me like a child, which is what is happening.
I am planning on getting my own apartment soon. It's not going to happen instantly, but it should happen soon. I am working on it. I want to get my drivers license first.
I don't know where you are, but in the United States of America that bullshit certainly isn't normal. I guess I'm wondering if you live in a country and or were raised in a culture where women and children are considered property. Sorry, I'm just curious is all.
Is there a way that you could get out of there?
I actually live in the US.
My parents are separated. My dad consistently offers to pick me up and let me live with him, but I keep saying no.
I want to move into an apartment that I pay for with my own money. That way, it will be harder for my mom to find excuses to infantilize me.
Did she leave a mark when she hit you? Was she reprimanding you for yelling at her? You seem to like her behavior enough to turn your Dad down, when he has asked you to move in with him. Perhaps you need to put your big girl panties on and get an apartment and move out to be the adult you say you are.
Unless you live in a place where it's very dangerous for a 20 year-old woman to be out alone, it sounds like your family is treating you like you're property. Alternatively, they don't trust you.
At 20, you should be able to deal with the world on your own. Lots of 20 year-olds live independently of their parents. If your parents continue to keep you under tight control at this age, you'll never learn to be independent.
But maybe that's what they want...
That's a very difficult situation.
I guess you have to ask yourself how you'll feel in the end if you continue to accept responsibility for your mother for as long as she needs you (which sounds like it could be for life) compared to how you'd feel if you said you couldn't continue and separated from her.
It sounds like your options are pretty shitty, but you have to pick one (or some compromise) and live with the consequences.
In my view, children shouldn't be expected to devote their lives to their parents. They didn't ask to be born to fill that role, parents have no right to expect them to do so, and children have the right to find their own place in the world.
Your mother sounds overly protective, but I doubt anyone can be like that for no reason. If you're an angel, and she won't let you leave the house at 20, then that's ridiculous.
I'm just saying I'd need more context for your relationship with your mother to understand your situation. Does she need to be concerned about you messing around with drugs or shady characters? Something must have happened to make her distrust you this way.
Sorry for being presumptuous, I'm not trying to offend you (for what it's worth). If you're an exemplary person, then your mother is nuts. But if there's more to the story, can you please share?
You should have punched the cunt in her fucking nose. She has no right to control you either.