Is it normal for my father to be like this?
I'm sorry if this is kind of chunky and hard to follow but there's a fair amount to say.
My father's the type who is always striving for success - and by that, I mean seeing it as the only acceptable goal. Everything else is unacceptable and insufficient.
I feel like my life is a field full of land mines. One wrong move and he flies into a rage, shouting every single thing I did wrong at my face. Then he somehow connects it to EVERY SINGLE OTHER THING I DID WRONG, turning a conversation about making a little stupid mistake into one about how I'm wasting my life on stupid, worthless shit and my mindset is going to get me killed.
Then I get upset. He instills feelings of uselessness and worthlessness inside of me, and it all overwhelms me and I start crying. He gets even more upset, because APPARENTLY all I do is cry about my problems like a baby instead of trying to succeed. Apparently, I'm just an emotional wimp and this is life and I have to just get over it instead of being a weak bastard idiot.
I've said before that I wouldn't be crying if he hadn't gotten so upset. He puts all the blame on me, saying that it's my fault because I screwed up, and if I actually got my life together we wouldn't be in this situation. He says that him getting upset is apparently "necessary"... just like how him getting upset at my uncle and screaming loud enough that the entire house can hear him is also "necessary".
He sees me as "so fucking embarrassing" just because I'm apparently that incompetent. He's called me his prime source of unhappiness. He's called me a leech that suckers off of other people.
He's all about NOW. Do this NOW. Get this done NOW. Reply to me NOW, even though you can barely talk because you're sobbing and your body's going numb because he's shouting so loud. Answer this question NOW, even though you don't know the answer and you need to think about it.
I've been hit. I've had an ice tea bottle thrown at me. When I was a teenager, he grabbed my neck to try and get me to stop "crying like a little wimp".
He has said before that this is normal. I don't know what "normal" is anymore, so I'm asking for a different perspective on it.