Is it normal for moms to say this?

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Sorry about posting so much and annoying y’all. I’m trying not to post as much anymore.

She’s been depressed a lot so I’m hoping she wasn’t being serious, but it killed me inside really bad. She said that if I wanted it she could arrange to put me into fostercare. I don’t want to be in fostercare. I just said that if she’s going to dump me eventually that she might as well get it over with. Then she replied that. Is that normal??
I want to get close to her, but I’m terrified she’s just going to dump me eventually. So I haven’t really gotten as close as a natural mother and daughter do. I think part of the problem is I’m adopted so she doesn’t love me like a normal child. I was already 3 when she got me, now I’m 17. And I feel like a tiny kid still. Now I’m scared she might actually dump me for real. Am I just overreacting? Please tell me. I need to know if this is normal.

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    That's really really sad. You need to talk with her more about how you're feeling and if that doesn't work find someone else who's supportive who can help you sort out your feelings.

    You ARE a normal child even though you're adopted and most adoptive parents do love their children. It sounds like her depression could be making her feel she can't cope with being a parent right now, which has nothing to do with your worthiness and all to do with her depression.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    It shouldn't matter if you're adopted! She is obligated to love you unconditionally as your parent. Tell her how you feel and just be strong! I know it's difficult, but you are worthy of her love!

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  • carebear666
    6 years ago

    You are already seventeen, and by the time you turn 18, you won't be a minor anymore. If your mother does dump you after the age of 18, you will not have a home. I think that either you should let this happen, or patch things up so that she never dumps you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      How do I do that though? Everything I do sets her off.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Maybe she's just a really messed up person?

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    • 2009ispronouncedtwentyohNineKok
      6 years ago

      You mean the Mother's depressed.

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