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I have this friend who constantly asks if I’ve ate anything today (If I say yes, he asks what and demands a picture) When I tell him he’s being nosy, he gets all mad.
I don’t have any eating disorders at all, is this a normal friend behavior? I have other friends who don’t do this.
He maybe one of those "feeders" that get sexual gratification from watching women gorge themselves with food. If you don't have any eating disorders and you aren't dangerously underweight and no one else treats you like this, i would probably distance myself from this person. Seems weirdly personal and controlling at the very least.
there are no just friend on earth , you just havent let him inside you thats all. no man has anything to do with a women unless he is trying to breed her. So his concern over your skinny body is just what it seems. he thinks you are crazy and you are not eating and he wants you to look normal and breed you every chance he gets. you can call it just friends in your head if you want but thats not what it really is.
When I worked a month in India, I was confused by how often people asked "have you had breakfast?" instead of "how are you?"
My initial reaction was to be slightly offended and amused, wondering what business it was of theirs. I eventually learned that this is a cultural tradition, based on the neighborly idea of sharing concern for other people's welfare. If they could not afford to eat that day, you would offer some of your own. Whether or not that's a conscious practice today and they are prepared to offer food, the greeting has persisted.
That said, why is your friend specifically asking? Who knows. Maybe he feels he has reason to be concerned. Maybe he's jealous of what you're eating. Maybe he is confused and feels it's a socially appropriate way to start a conversation. As someone who has had lifelong struggles with social skills, I understand that it can be easy to be off-putting when you're just trying to express friendly concern. Or maybe it is some kind of fetish of his.
The best thing to do is to have a frank conversation with him. Explain how it makes you feel when he repeatedly asks what you are eating and ask why he does it.
he probably thinks you are too skinny and his friends or family are pressuring him to break off with crazy chick that won't eat enough.
I’m not really. I have some what of a high metabolism so I don’t gain weight has badly from eating sugar & junk food, but I’m definitely not super model skinny. He doesn’t have any friends and he hates his family, so I don’t believe that’s it.
There’s nothing to break off since we’re not dating. Just friends.
Perhaps a compulsive and misplaced attempt to protect you, maybe related to his animosity with his own family. Maybe they mistreated him or malnourished him, and now he wants to somehow ensure you don't have a similar experience. Perhaps also related to an unrevealed love for you, manifested in this extremely protective behaviour, or somehow sexually.
I think it’s similarto what you said, only with a friend he had before. His last friend killed herself so maybe he wants to ensure that I don’t do the same?
Yeah that should be a reason. Also an attraction is not excluded. As Nickvey said, a straight male will never have a 100% platonic love for a female. There is no such thing because there is always a sexual latency in there, no matter what. So this can also be a reason for this specific behaviour.