Is it normal for a bisexual person to feel ashamed when lgbt people act hateful?

This is not a spiteful troll post. Whenever I video chatted with someone from the gay community or I drove out to really far places to social meetups with other gays, it was usually boring and uneventful. Theyd say men are evil, gross, are horrible people. They'd also hate straight people. To a lesser extent they'd bash bisexuals(which is what I am, ffs) and in one meetup they bashed transgender people. A few of them would get upset if someone didn't agree and the ones that did apologise would blame their home life, a mental disorder, or give some long sob story. At some point I just refused to accept those excuses. I know they're not all bitter, but after all that, for some reason I just feel embarrassed. IIN?

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  • Boojum

    Are you ashamed that people who have the same colour eyes as your own have done terrible things? Do you feel ashamed to share the same skin pigmentation as some serial killers?

    Since you're human, it's highly likely you have done things in your life which you feel ashamed about now, but it's pointless self-flagellation to be ashamed of things for which you are not personally responsible.

    Every group of people selected by any criteria you choose - including sexual orientation - will include some people who are nasty, shallow, and stupid. Some people are obnoxious dicks for a whole range of reasons, and some people lash out at others in an attempt to feel better about themselves.

    Some people who belong to a certain club look down on those who they see as not being fully committed to the club. It's a commonly held perception that many lesbians hate bisexuals, at least partly because they're deemed to be "sleeping with the enemy".

    I suggest you do you, and try not to worry too much about how sad, spiteful people do their lives.

    If the gatherings were of lesbian women, you might consider reading this to understand what was going on.

    https://www.them.us/story/study-explains-lesbian-bias-against-bisexual-women

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    • Ellenna

      Good post and I checked out that survey: only 65 participants but interesting nevertheless. I'd have liked to have known how many of the lesbians surveyed regarded themselves as lesbian feminists and as a former such person, now ostracized after coming out as bi, exclusionary & judgmental attitudes are common and very hurtful.

      One former lover screamed the question"Why do you have to be so honest?" at me: apparently I should've kept quiet about sexual attraction to a man after decades of living as a lesbian?

      And of course I'm still a feminist of the 70's Women's Liberation/Anarcha Feminist variety, but now have nothing to do with judgmental authoritarian feminists.

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  • curious-bunny

    Haha the gats are worse to us trabs folk then the straights are. In first world countries at least

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  • Holzman_67

    It’s a quasi intellectual truth at best

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  • SwickDinging

    Sadly there are dickheads everywhere. It's best to just avoid them, if possible

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Sadly the LGBT community is riddled with exclusionists. You would think people who grew up facing bullying and discrimination would know better than to mirror that behaviour, but no, to have the honour of being LGBT in their eyes you must be 100% gay to the point where you poop rainbows. You must not be bisexual or non-binary and don’t even THINK about being asexual!

    I also can’t stand people who think that having a difficult life/upbringing gives them a free-pass to be an arsehole or who bring up irrelevant sad life events when they realise they’re losing an argument.

    I don’t blame you for feeling sick of the “community”, as a bi-romantic asexual I feel the same.

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  • leggs91200

    It is just internal fighting like goes on in about every community.

    For the real world meetings, those are just for people to pretend like they actually have a social life.

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  • LloydAsher

    I think it would be best for the gays to seperate themselves from the transgender community. Gays can win a general social battle but trans can not. Things dont change that much for a gay agenda but trans "right" alter the entire social fabric with no end point.

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    • AMERICANsavage

      I dont get the whole gay community. What rights do they not have? I dont feel like I've ever met someone thats like "Fuckin queers arent allowed here". Seems like in 2019 people are passed that

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  • mauzi

    You keep posting these sort of topics every morning like clockwork, and then deleting them shortly afterwards. 2 days ago you were a straight woman who was afraid to wear a LGBT shirt, and yesterday you were asking if it was normal for you to virtue signal for the LGBT community.

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    • Cuntsiclestick

      Lol those people were not me. XD. I'm asking a serious question.

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      • mauzi

        Ok, I read it more closely to give my attempt at a serious answer (should delete the first comment?).
        Although Im probably more gay than straight, I've always been wary to go that route due to the types you're describing who take the label waaay too seriously. I have no idea how or where to meet "normal" gay/bi/trans who don't let that aspect consume their personality. so it makes sense

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      • mauzi

        Well damn! my appologies :(

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        • Cuntsiclestick

          It's ok. I'm not mad. Lol Funny thing is the crazies are what made me stop looking for women and just focus on men. I'm still sexually attracted to females, but the men were more likely to have their shit together(they weren't whiny, had a job, a lisence, were able to handle situations without freaking out, etc).

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          • mauzi

            Yeah thats how I feel too, I'm attracted to men's personality but attracted to women's body :[

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          • AMERICANsavage

            Maybe try a Trump supporting lesbian. Maybe she wont be snowflake.

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            • leggs91200

              You would not believe this but my room mate is a Trump supporting lesbian. Hell if I know why.

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            • mauzi

              That’d just be exchanging one kind of “snowflake” for another.

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            • Cuntsiclestick

              Nah I've got a boyfriend who isn't crazy. I don't trust my own gender. I don't hate women, but the females at my job are so gossipy and competitive over dumb things. XD

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