Is it normal date someone who gives me no butterflies

I always date someone who gives me butterflies but honestly my anxiety issues are too bad for it to work. And I never felt that for anyone who was good for me or made me safe.
Now I am dating a guy who seems pretty into me but I dont feel anything intense.He is similar to me, has anxiety issues and has been misunderstood a lot. We are weirdos and he gets it.
We have now dated a month. He is interested in having me meet his parents. I have never introduced any man ive dated to my mother before and she is a bit upset by that so im going to introduce this one. He is a sweet guy and caring and he is kind of cute but I feel no butterflies. Its nice because I am not sad when we say goodbye instead I can immadiately focus on other things but I look forward to seeing him again. I guess I must feel something because im not the type of person who can stand the company of someone else easily, I dont even want to see my friends often so yeah. Is it a good idea to get involved with someone who gives no butterflies or is such a feeling necessary?
I feel good with him though. We can talk about anything and we can be quiet comfortably.

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  • Wanting butterflies or sparks or whatever is just a romcom ideal. I’ve never had it with any of the guys I’ve dated

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  • Sounds easy and simple. A good relationship should be.

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    • Yeah I think so. I kind of just want stability with someone else but you hear so much about "butterflies"

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  • I'd never date someone who doesn't give me butterflies. What's the point? I would feel so uncomfortable and grossed out to be PHYSICAL with someone who doesn't give me butterflies. But then I've never had a boyfriend because I've never met anyone who gives me butterflies, so I just make up invisible ones that DO.

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    • Well butterflies is a dopamine rush. It stops happening eventually anyway and thats when emotionally immature people break up and go to find a new person for new dopamine rushes.
      Physical as in sex isnt a big deal to me. I would prefer it with someone who makes me feel safe over excited. I guess it depends what you are looking for. I grew tired of only looking for butterflies so im trying something else. I find that exciting rarely means stable anyway. Invisible boyfriends huh...

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      • yeah. I'd rather just stay alone with my invisible boyfriends than be with someone I'm gonna end up not liking in that way. And then having to either split up with them or stay with them feeling uncomfortable yet viewing them as like a family member and getting attached.... Nope not for me.

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  • I don't have a clue what you're talking about.

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