If you’re lonely is it best to be alone or around someone you dislike?

Just moved to a new part of town a few days ago, I had no friends before as is, but the quarantine and move has done nothing but amplify my loneliness ten fold. I feel really uncomfortable and almost unbearably lonely, I’m a 21 year old girl and I’m able to make friends when I have a job, it’s not an issue on *making* friends. (But I’ve never had a close friend, and I just lost my job and can’t find another one.)

The only people I talk to besides some family, are two boys. One was a really annoying coworker acquaintance and the other I met recently and don’t know well at all. They’re not terrible to be around but I can tell they’re both extremely clingy and probably want to date me and not just be friends. I’m not interested although they’re ok to have conversation with. I’m so lonely I’m having a hard time trying to figure out what’s best: Hanging out with one of them to feel less alone even though I don’t really like either of them, or just staying alone till I find somebody i actually want to be around. What do you think?

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Hello snowflakes that keep commenting about how they love being alone, you might find this really hard to believe but I’m an introvert and have spent almost literally my entire life alone. I don’t need comments saying you love being alone because I don’t care and share the same perspective. I’m just looking for advice on how to cope with such loneliness when going through a very transitional time period when you have nobody and no familiarity with anything. If you want to stroke your ego about how special you are go write a fucking blog, there’s a HUGE difference in spending most of your time alone and being lonely, get the hell over yourselves. Not sure how you clicked on this and interpreted my question as a post about you you egomaniacs

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Comments ( 26 )
  • Ellenna

    I'd rather be alone than with someone violent, needy, selfish, noisy or messy and knowing this is somewhat of a consolation at the moment: I'm in the very highest risk group if I catch this virus and I feel very sorry for people cooped up with someone they hate or who hates them or has any of the above characteristics.

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  • McSorley

    Nah, don't keep potentially toxic people in your life just to have someone around. There are other ways to make friends. When I was younger I volunteered at an animal rescue and made a shitload of new friends. Then they became friends with the ones I had already. Maybe you can do some volunteer work.

    A bonus is that volunteer work looks good on your resume and will help in your job search. Anyway, you're in a brand new town. It'll take some time but you'll make it.

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  • controversy

    Alone.

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    I personally would rather be alone even if it was for the rest of my life.

    Thats my feelings though and I never once said I was normal or sane. I think most people would rather be with someone they hate. People crave interaction. Why is it we talk so much about someone we dont even like?

    I mean look at this corona virus shit. Yall been at home for a few weeks and are all ready losing ya minds, our government is even worried about suicide because people cant stand to be away from other people.
    I mean you all have social media like facebook and thats still not enough.

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    • leggs91200

      social media doesn't replace having actual company.

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    • Ur retarded

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      • Mammal-lover

        Says the one to lazy to even take the time to type properly.

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        • You, are a retard!

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          • Mammal-lover

            You're would also be acceptable. The exclamation point is little obtrusive however

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            • Why are you telling me what else would be acceptable if I already wrote it out properly? For somebody who seems to be so grammatically correct especially considering your concern for the use of my exclamation point, it sure is interesting of you to not add any punctuation mark at all you simpleton!

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        This is why I would chose to be alone

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  • Gabloo

    From my experience I would much rather be alone. This is actually the case at this moment. I chose to self isolate completely by myself in my own apartment rather than Isolate with my family. And I would much rather be bored then miserable.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I feel much more lonely spending time with someone I can't stand than being alone. Solitude is underrated. There's no point in being with people one doesn't like just to fill some void.

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  • Tommythecaty

    I dislike all peeps....even if I like them

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  • raisinbran

    If you're alone, or lonely, it means no one likes you. Being unpopular means you have no value to the humanity. Just look at all the worthless bums who shit on the streets. They're usually alone for a reason.

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  • leggs91200

    There just are not many options for having a social life right now, that is not your fault. The only time someone should feel bad about their situation is if they have solid options but choose not to take them

    Bringing toxic people into your life is not the answer.

    Supposedly a lot of communities are doing stuff together now that the world has decided we should all be grounded. I do not know if that is an option.

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  • barefoot_on_the_sand

    I've been alone for most of my life and I'm ok by myself.

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    • rocketdave

      same here.

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  • chuy

    Well that's a stuoid question. O rather be alone.

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  • D.O.C

    Good to be alone than to be in with people

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  • bigbudchonga

    I'm clearly in the minority here, but I say temporarily settle. You're going to have to put up with them making moves on you by the sound of it though.

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