I was followed around by a stranger

Today I went for a walk to the park because I like rain.

I got to the gates and some guy stopped and tried talking to me. I had no clue what he was talking about so I just stayed silent. He said he knew me and where I lived (which was fairly close to where I actually live). Asked how old I was. Asked me for tobacco, I said I didn't have any. Asked if I wanted a drink from his water bottle, I said no thanks. He kept going on and on about where I was going and who I lived with and stuff. Just following me up and down the path.

I kept saying I wasn't interested in talking to a random stranger but he kept following me trying to talk. He was big guy and pretty intimidating. I walked up to the road as people driving past made me feel a bit safer. Eventually I went to the other side of the road. He followed a bit then just watched me walk down the road. It took about half an hour to get rid of him.

Am I over reacting or is this slightly terrifying?

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  • thepawn

    Super duper terrifying in my opinion. I would talk to someone, maybe notify the cops if you see him again or feel like it would calm your nerves. Either way. Not normal, at all.

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  • IrishPotato

    Call the police!

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  • Boojum

    If he hadn't mentioned knowing where you live, I'd say he was just the sort of odd people you can find hanging out in public spaces looking for some sort of human contact.

    It would be very worrying if he knew exactly where you live, but if he was just talking about the general area, perhaps you shouldn't be too alarmed. As Rose says, maybe he's just socially inept and lonely. If you're female, you should be wary of guys who approach you for no good reason, and particularly concerned about men who are much bigger than you, so your response is perfectly reasonable. If you're a guy, maybe he just happened to notice you around and thought you looked like a nice person.

    There's no shortage of nasty people in the world, but I believe there are far more lonely people who just want someone to talk to.

    In any case, go with your gut instinct. If you were getting a weird, unpleasant vibe off the guy, keep an eye out for him. If you see him hanging around where you live or on your normal walking routes, consider contacting the police or at least change your habits.

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  • Definitely NOT normal. This person is stalking you.

    Human trafficking is a very real threat, as is kidnapping, rape, and ever murder—the dangers cannot be overstated. It CAN happen to you, or any of us, anywhere, anytime. There are enough degenerate and mentally unsound people in the world that it's foolish to think you're 100% safe anywhere—even in public, or your own home. Don’t be scared, be prepared.

    Some steps to ensure your safety:
    1) Take a self-defense class so you have the knowledge and confidence to physically defend yourself.

    2) Carry pepper spray attached to your key-chain. It’s cheap and effective.

    3) Develop the habit of carrying your keys in a fist with some or all keys comfortably poking between the fingers like claws (think Nightmare on Elm Street). It’s an excellent makeshift deterrent—especially if you punch an attacker in the eye. Don’t feel bad about defending yourself, lethally if needed. If it escalates to you or him going down, make sure it’s him, and once you get him down, keep him down with hard kicks to the head, kidneys, and groin area, before running away. Be as loud as possible while doing so, repeatedly yelling “FIRE!” at the top of your lungs! (not rape, as many will ignore such pleas)

    4) When in or out of your house ALWAYS make sure the doors are locked. If you have just a knob lock & chain get a deadbolt (or two) installed asap.

    5) Invest in a home alarm system, particularly window alarms as this is a common point of entry for criminals. If you live on the ground floor, do not leave your windows open or unlocked when you go to bed, or leave the house, and make sure to look outside of them on occasion when they are open, to ensure you aren’t being spied upon by someone outside.

    6) ALWAYS keep your house doors locked, even when you’re home.

    7) If you drive, lock your car doors at all times, and immediately upon entry. If you have electronic locks, don’t unlock them until you’re right at your car door, and BE CERTAIN to look in the back seat first.

    8) Tell friends/family of this experience, describing the man with at much detail as possible, in case he escalates the stalking.

    9) When out walking alone, keep looking around yourself—over your shoulder, to the sides and front. ALWAYS be aware of your surroundings, and anyone nearby. Don’t be paranoid, just cautiously aware. And for goodness sake, don't wear noise canceling earbuds so you don't hear someone approaching.

    10) While out and about if you believe you’re being followed call the police on your cell (assuming you have one).

    I’m sure there are other safety tips that others might provide. These are the basics. Be safe.

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  • ShadeVial

    That seems really creepy. The water part REALLY scares me though, normal people don't just tend to randomly offer you water. If it was open and you never saw him take a drink himself that water could of very well been spiked and he wanted you to drink it.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    stungun to the neck

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  • RoseIsabella

    That sounds kinda creepy. Hopefully he was just a lonely and socially inept person.

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  • bigrichard69

    Bitch that's not normal at all
    I'd call the god damn police
    He's definitely trying to kidnap you or some shit like that

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    well the stungun is state to state but shed likely git away withit no matter where

    shes a chick gittin harassed by a weirdo

    the system works sometimes

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    thatsa huge escalation anda pilea legal problems leadinta death row

    id call it satisfyin but terrible advice

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  • Seems like a stalker. Report him asap.

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  • You should tell the police what happened and give them his description!

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  • Hootsauce

    ITS COMPLETELY NORMAL,hes just maybe goind in the same direction as you or he is just aroused by you but you should let him.

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    • Pantyman101

      I would have stopped at the local bench and reached up into my skirt and let him watch me finger myself

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