I put my husband in the dog house for one night for this

I live in a foreign country and my family is thousands of kilometers away. I always worry about them. I guess it's even more worse now since my mum passed suddenly 2 years ago while I was here in this new country I call home.

My dad was in an accident. It could have been worse but he's getting better now. He ended up getting his foot run over and when I got off the phone to tell my husband he was playing a video game and as I was attempting to tell him the story, he literally kept playing the video game and he was so distracted. Couldn't even peel himself away from the video game for 2 minutes to listen to what happened to my dad. He only paused the game after he saw how upset I got and then he said to me well you first started out by saying "he's okay now but..," so he claims he thought it wasn't a story that needed his immediate attention. I was so shook by this lack of sympathy or remorse.

My husband has a gaming problem. If he starts gaming he goes into another world. I don't mind him having his time to do his own thing but I feel like his gaming is out of control.

If your wife or husband comes to you and days omg my dad was in an accident wouldn't that make someone naturally pay attention to ehAt their partner is saying. I was so hurt and shocked by his behaviour and lack of remorse. He went on to say that he texted my dad and he said he's fine so case closed.

I then made him sleep in the other room. This is first time this has happened. Did I overreact?

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  • He can’t show remorse for it, as he didn’t cause it.

    Also yes, you are overreacting to that which can simply be discussed.

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  • Why would he care about an accident that your dad went through that was prefaced with the equivalence of saying, "He's fine now, but not long ago, he..."? First of all, he probably has very little connection to father. Second of all, your father is fine. Accidents don't really matter if the outcome is the same as the input. Just a question, do you know which video game he was playing?

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    • I have very little connection with his dad but if he told me that his dad had been in an accident I'd for sure stop what I'm doing and try to listen because I'm married to him and it's his dad. I'd listen and show concern for my husband. He was playing civilization.

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      • Based on what you've told me, it sounds like he was at least listening. Especially if he was playing Civilization (a game which requires minimal attention).

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      • Oh wow easily paussable game. You dont even need to press a button to pause it.

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    • Agreed

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  • I mean im clingy as fuck so when someone i care about likena significant other comes up to me to say something they always get the bulk of my attention especislly if upset about something. I simply can't focus on 2 things like that at once. Part way why I failed my driver test. I was so focused on driving and obeying all the laws it took a second for any order she gave to really register. So if he's anything like me playing a game he didn't notice you at all. Thats messed up. You s/o is hurt you stop what your doing and help them.

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  • It was wrong of him, I agree. But you overreacted. You could talk it out.

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    • I tried to talk to it out with him and he just said he said he was sorry and sarcastically asked me what more I wanted from him. The apology wasn't sincere just something he had to get done so he could proceed with his game. He's a very different detached selfish person when he is gaming.

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  • You made him sleep in the other room. How about if he makes you sleep in the yard or under the sink? What if he shoves your face in his butt crack?

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