I met a guy on an online forum and am really falling for him... am i crazy?
I have never dated online. Was just active on an online forum where people tended to discuss controversial topics. Two years ago a new guy joined and at first he got into many arguments with pretty much everyone (me included). I disagreed with him on a lot of topics ranging from politics to health. But we somehow managed to keep a dialogue going despite our differences. Talking with him is interesting and he helped me see new perspectives I hadn't considered before.
One year ago I invited him to a chat group where I regularly talk with online friends who share the same hobbies as me. This guy and I got to talk more frequently, and discovered many similarities in our cultures and personalities. I had completely given up on love at the time, was single and not even looking. It happened so gradually that I did not even notice when exactly I had developed feelings for him.
To this day I have never met him in person. This feels very weird to me, because I am used to meeting people in person, face to face. I have had phone calls with this man, but no video calls yet (I do not feel comfortable showing the interior of my home to someone who is technically a stranger). We live in two different but neighboring states. We could relatively easily meet up if both of us traveled to come see each other. Still this is a long distance friendship, and so far only online. He has confirmed he has feelings for me too.
He says he wants to meet up in December. Should I give this love a chance? Is this developing at a normal pace? (We are both adults in our late twenties.) All this just came as a big shock to me, because I did not even consider online dating as an option. I did not register on any dating sites. Is this normal? Do people meet each other on online forums these days?
Do you think it possible to develop genuine feelings for someone you only know from online? (I have seen his photos and he has seen mine.) So (at least from my side) I can say the attraction is not purely mental but also physical. And I am rather certain I am not being cat-fished because I have seen him on live video streams (I was just too shy to show the interior of my own home, for reasons mentioned above).
What do you think?