I'm ugly and will die alone

I have never had a girlfriend and I believe that I'll die alone. Have plenty of female friends but it's clear that none of them are interested everytime I find some who I have something in common with she always ends up having a boyfriend. I'm tired of people saying that I should have more confidence I've done that a million times but nothing has changed. Maybe I'm just one of those people who are destined to never find that someone who could make me happy, let's be honest there are people who go to there deaths never having a relationship.

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  • You can always adopt a pet

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  • I know you wish someone would pick you, but remember,sometimes not being picked makes you more special. Don't ask: It's hard to explain.

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  • I understand you completely, and have never understood the incredible naïveté that exists in the general population. What most people don't understand is that confidence from attractive people is perceived as a positive attribute. Confidence projected by unattractive people is viewed as highly creepy, and aggressive. For some fucking reason, people are unable to visualize the impact of a smile with crooked teeth and eye contact from an asymmetric face.

    I will say that ugly people (both men and women) with partners are incredibly perceptive to notice the 1% of people that may be interested in them. *Sigh*. Be comfortable in your own skin, and study subconscious attraction cues. YouTube has videos on both topics. I've walked in your shoes and know it's a rough life. Please remember that you're not alone.

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    • I seen those videos. Ever notice how it is some super attractive person doing them though?

      I think the OP fails also to realize that relationships are nice at first but it soon gets boring.

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  • Get a whore, dude.

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  • This might be a cliche but i know a lot of people who are " ugly" or have not much to offer, but they still find someone for them. There are also attractive people who die alone.
    Some people are happy being solitary but it sounds like youre not. Keep trying to meet someone meanwhile find some interests.

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  • How old are you? If you're 50+ then fair play. I still know plenty of people who found someone in their later years but I can understand you feeling defeated. It's entirely possible but the odds are stacked against you if we're being honest. I would say try online dating. It's worked really well for some of my friends. I also found my husband this way although we were younger then. It work well for the older crowd because you know what you want and you don't mess around wasting people's time. So it is at least an efficient process.

    If you're yet another 20 something kid who thinks their life is over because they are still single then stop being so fucking miserable. Your 20s are about having fun. You have plenty of time for all the boring shit when you're older. Go take some drugs, drink some booze, backpack around the world, learn another language. Whatever. Have some fun and stop acting like an old codger. When you actually are old you will really regret wasting your youth.

    Choose whichever age you are closest to and take that paragraph as my response.

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  • It sounds to me like your problem isn't that you're ugly. Your problem is that you're a wimp.

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  • Well if you have that mindset you have already lost. More sex for the rest of us who don't have a defeated mindset. Cool sob story bro.

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    • Gotta agree with ya here. Minus the sex part but otherwise yea

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      • What sex part? This guy giving up doesn't improve opportunities for everyone else? That's just math, chief.

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        • That's not even what I'm talking about. Relationships isn't just sex. Sex is a tinny part of relationships

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          • Ohhhhhhh okay a virgin just corrected me. Sex is actually just a tiny part, not a major part like it has been in every fucking relationship I've been in. Man I just got stood up!

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            • Sex for men is important. Sex for women is statistically less important. Me being one of those statistics. Yes sex is nice but wana know what's even better? Cuddles while watching a movie enjoying wine n cheese etc. Eomething that stimulates you both emotionally and physically will always be a higher priority than something that is just physical.

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  • I get where you're coming from, but honestly it just takes time. I was in your situation but I've had several girls since then. It's not all hopeless, as much as you might like to think.

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  • yo, low-key same

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  • Is there a chance you'll be alone forever? Sure, same goes with most average dudes. Are you definitely not gonna find someone with that attitude? Yup.

    It ain't going to be fast. Even the hottest of dudes will typically have a bad ratio of success and rejection. Make sure your standards aren't too high and that you're looking after yourself. Can take a long time for you to find someone.

    In the meantime, focus on other aspects of your life like friends, work, etc.

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  • Just find an ugly woman. Duh

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  • Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right- Henry Ford

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  • When people think of relationships, they picture things like smiles, romantic dinners, "good morning" texts, awesome sex, that scene from the old movie "The Shining" where Jack Nickolas is busting down the bathroom door with an ax, and other picture-perfect sweet gestures.

    Relationships ARE a lot of fun during the initial stages. After that, it is just boredom and getting tired of having sex with the same person all the time.

    Think of couples who have been together at least six months. They don't seem terribly excited, do they? If anything, the man often seems broken down because he is tired of putting up with his G/F's bullshit and nagging.

    BTW, here is that scene from The Shining" (here's Johnny). This scene is so loving, I tear up each time I watch it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-ABIIZV3vA

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  • I shared your mentality when I was in highschool. I came to an interesting realisation whilst taking one of my many classes though, you can achieve anything you set your mind to. I began taking Psychology classes and reading articles regarding human behaviour and learned some fascinating techniques to increasing my chances with women. If you worry you're going to be alone then by all means take action, investigate why, take up a book about human nature and the psychology behind our minds. Not only did it help but I lost my virginity that same year to one of the most popular girls in my highschool. I'm now an adult and have had many partners, all of which I have the techniques I learned to thank for.

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    • Any guy using a "technique" sounds like a toxic person to me.

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      • Allow me to rephrase. I was taught methods that appeal to a person. You're in no way taking advantage of them. It's merely a matter of specific wording and phrases, body language and so forth. Little things that're often missed in most everyday situations that could be the difference between creating a spark with a person or not.

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  • You've probably gone for the wrong type of chick. I have male friends, 2 of them doesn't date at all, but the one who does try to find someone always picks the wrong type who has other intensions or who just would clearly never go for someone like him. Not that there's anything wrong with him but people should take a look at themselves and if they want a certain type of partner live up to that ideal yourself or at least try. Also desperation is a turn-off. Us women can smell desperation from a mile away, trust me. You can act however cool and smooth you want but if you're desperate it'll shine through.

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  • This looks like it was written by me. But I don't remember writing it.

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  • Yes that is normal.

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