I'm not happy that my parents are moving back in together?

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I am 20 years old, in college, still living at home. For my entire life, my parents have been splitting up, getting back together, fighting, splitting up, getting back together, rinse and repeat. For most of the splits I lived with my mom, but as I grew older, we started to not get along. I'm pretty free spirited and she can be...overbearing, even at my age. The last split occured sometime around April 2016, and after a huge fight with mom, I moved in with my dad around February 2017. Everything was fine and I was really happy living with dad, but it's October and we're all moving back in under the same roof, for "financial" reasons (meaning my mom wouldn't keep a job on her own to support herself). The other day, my dad told my mom he has feelings for her still. It's a vicious cycle that I hate to see happen again. So, is it normal that I'm upset? Should I try to move out?

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    They sound like a couple that enjoys drama. Some people are like that; life is just an endless soap opera, with one phony, super-drammatic crisis after another. I can fully understand why you find this exhausting and exasperating.

    Clearly, you can't make your parents grow up and finally decide what the hell it is they want from life and each other, and you can't stop them from living together (or from separating yet again).

    You've got an obvious choice: either you figure out how you can live with your mother, or you figure out how you can live somewhere else.

    Only you can decide which is best in terms of costs (of all sorts) and benefits.

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  • Anongirl26
    6 years ago

    Totally normal. Time to move out

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    I think it's understandable to be upset. As for moving out, that depends completely on you. If you think you can keep handling their stupid drama, stay.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    i dont know who is the bigger loser , you or you mom. sounds like at age 20 its time to get the fuck out of the house

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    • blueskye7597
      6 years ago

      I agree, but she's forced me to quite every job I've ever had and wouldn't allow me to even get my license until I was 19. Actually, I got it while living with my dad. So if it were up to her I'd be completely dependent.

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