I'm clinically depressed and it's my best friends fault

People will come into and out of your life, for your whole life. Get used to it.

Your friend is not responsible for your depression, which is a medical condition. Talk to your therapist about dealing with the condition, and once that is established, maybe you can talk about your friend, with a clear mind.

I can see why he ghosted you, you are needy and clingy. He moved on, you need to as well. Grow up and move on with your life.

If this is the plot for Netflix’s next 1 season wonder then bring it on.

Depression is no one's fault.

Your desired relationship is unhealthy. You do not own your friend. He is entitled to a life.

Sounds like you'll need to get a new therapist, too. She's too closely involved now and it doesn't sound like you're able to separate personal and professional.

I am read reading this, and commenting again because of your most recent, and third post on this issue. I'm wondering if you ever at any point told this dude that you didn't want him to date girls, because honestly that would be a totally normal, logical, and reasonable reason for your friend to ghost you, and quite naturally not want to have anything to do with you.

Nobody wants to be suffocated by someone who wants to dominate their life, and control them. No offense, but from the picture you have painted thus far most normal people would want to run far away from someone who acts, and thinks the way you do.

I am, however, quite happy to hear that you now have gotten a new therapist. The situation with your last therapist is what's called a conflict of interest, and as soon as your last therapist realized that her daughter was dating this former friend of yours she should have immediately referred you out to someone else.

I do want to say that if you seriously expected your ex therapist to tell you details about her daughter's relationship with your now ex-friend, and or encourage her not to date him for your sake then you have some very serious issues with not being connected to reality, having an inflated sense of self importance, possibly a complete lack of human empathy.

Have you ever been screened for Narcissistic personality disorder, and or Asperger's syndrome which is now called high functioning Autism spectrum disorder I believe, but I could be wrong. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but many of wants, and expectations you have of other people are really abnormal, and selfish. I can't help, but to wonder if you are incapable of feeling empathy. You seem very entitled in your desires, and internal demands of people to conform to your wants, and needs. How can you not know that all of this stuff is selfish, needy, demanding, controlling and completely unappealing?

Reading your story again makes me so glad that I'm no longer with my abusive ex-boyfriend, and reminds me of why I've become more of a reclusive introvert who is relatively content to not have friends. Ugh.

I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, I'm just being honest. I hope you are seeing a psychiatrist as well as a talk therapist, because you probably need to be medicated. You seem kinda creepy, and very not normal to me. Good luck in school, congratulations again on getting a new therapist, and I hope you get over the loss of your friend.

Please remember that we are all children of God with freewill that he gives us, because he loves us. None of us own any of the rest of us, and we belong to no one, but God above.

The hard thing about graduating HS or college is that people tend to scatter. In a single day, you leave one life and start a new one.

It is like one day your entire social life is a certain group of people then one day it vanishes. I would think he would want to stay in touch though since you two ran around for so long.

I am 44 now and to this day I still believe that somewhere between ages 18 and 22 is when we get the biggest "reality slap". It is when we finally realize we are not kids anymore. It is when the world suddenly expects us to act like grown-ups even though we know little to nothing about the real world yet.

Here is the good news - New friends will enter your life at various times. You do not know when or who they will be. Maybe one of your best friends at some point in the future hasn't even been born yet; he or she will be in their 20's when you meet and you will be in your 40's. Maybe someone will approach you with a dumb question and you get to bullshitting and then years later still hanging out.
You never know.

You realize your therapist isn't obligated to interfere in your friends life, right? People change, people date, and they drift apart. He has a life now and you should work on finding one too. Your obsession is unhealthy and it's only going to get worse if you don't move on. Sometimes people never get closure and this is one of those situations where you're not going to get it. He's moved on from you and I can see why.

dating an 18 yr old? nonce!

You need to let this guy go.

You're feeling hurt and lonely and rejected, and that's okay, and at the same time you need to recognize that he has no obligation to feel the same way about you that you feel about him.

It's okay to feel the way that you're feeling, it's okay to be hurting. At the same time, you need to recognize that these are your feelings to deal with. You can't put all of your emotional well-being and stability onto one person, that just isn't sustainable. You need to develop a support network with multiple people that you can lean on, and learn healthy coping skills so that you can take care of yourself better when you're feeling overwhelmed like this.

Talk to your therapist. Tell her about what's going on and how you're feeling, that's what she's there for! If you or she isn't comfortable meeting because of this, like if one of you feels it's a conflict of interest or would be detrimental to your treatment, you need to figure out how to move forward. Ask her if she knows of any other therapists nearby that she could refer you to.

Let that bird spread its wings and fly.

So what are you saying about the dating thing? Is he not supposed to date anyone? You must live in a really small town if he's dating your therapist's daughter. What do you expect your therapist to do, forbid his, or her daughter from seeing your friend for your sake? What is wrong with wanting to be a police officer?

I'm truly sorry that you, and your friend lost touch, but perhaps you were, too desperate, needy, and demanding for his taste. He has a right to date other young adults, just like anyone else his age.

What you need is to work towards acceptance so you can get over this.