I'm an 18 yr old male and a virgin

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I've hit all the bases but home, I'm a virgin and I don't wanna change that. I'm in a relationship with a girl. She was raised Christian and we met at book club and hit it off. We've gone on a few dates and talk daily. She is really horny and its a problem cause she told me she's happy with being a virgin but she always wants hot messages. And I'm not very comfortable with it but I usually do because
I feel like a bad bf if I don't help her
I don't like saying no to her
I feel bad for her.
Is it normal? And let me know in the discussion how to tackle this problem. I can't have sex, but I'd hate to loose her

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  • SeekNPlay
    5 years ago

    You are the man of the relationship, this means you must assert your dominance. Tell her straight up what you truly feel. If she rejects, understand that your “relationship” may not be compatible.

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    • MegaOof
      5 years ago

      I'm not dominant

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      • SeekNPlay
        5 years ago

        So she’s the dominant one? Oh boy..

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  • SKDM007
    5 years ago

    18 is not the best age to have sex, idk in america it may be seen as amazing" when it really isnt so say you are frigid or something

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  • randypete
    5 years ago

    It is not normal

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  • Indigo1
    5 years ago

    “I can’t have sex”
    “I’m a virgin and I don’t want to change that”

    Why?

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    • MegaOof
      5 years ago

      I'm not comfortable with my body after past trauma. And my heart rate is high

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      • Indigo1
        5 years ago

        From an outsiders perspective, you let past trauma win if you let it rule your life, the only way to move forward is to face the uncomfortable and over come, you may find gaining her acceptance with sex could help you heal. Heart rate is high?see a doctor then and ask them if it’s safe or if they can help at your age they should be able to help... what are you just never going to have sex because you have high heart rate? Nonsense! Score a homerun kid!

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        • MegaOof
          5 years ago

          Idk past trauma to the point where I can't shower with the lights on because of my body

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          • Indigo1
            5 years ago

            i hear you, but the answer is not just to accept that, it's to seek help and find ways to build up your confidence or whatever it is you feel you are lacking. perhaps a therapist could help, or maybe doing some research and practicing methods on better body acceptance. Also you have a girl thats in to you so you can't be all bad, we can all be our own worst critic , but it can get to unhealthy extremes -- i believe its okay to choose to not have sex but although they are common i think it's unhealthy not to do it for the reasons you give, you have to find a way to overcome that. You can also have sex with lights off, perhaps that could be a way to get yourself more comfortable at first, but just slowly lean yourself on to it. you can tell your girl how you feel or you could just say you'd like it to be sensual and see how it would be to explore just with touch and no sight, often times this can be a really passionate way to have sex too. but ya man,go at your own pace , but my opinion is you should work on solving these issues and putting them in the past so they don't dictate your entire future.

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            • MegaOof
              5 years ago

              I Need surgery before I can be nude. I see a specialist and I'm in the process. There are things physically wrong with my body that would make sex a little weird. So she kinda has to wait but what do I do in the mean time?

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  • LloydAsher
    5 years ago

    Just masterbate eachother and see where it goes.

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