I have no problem dating an 18 year old and i'm 52, iin?

People are very judgmental but here's the thing... I don't feel like I'm 52. I feel like I'm 24. So what's the problem?

I guess I'm wondering what this age scale is that people are using to tell me I'm a bad person. As human beings we live a very short time relatively speaking. I don't see why two adults can't be together because of some arbitrary number.

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  • bob7

    what 18 year old dates a 50 year old

    oh wait, are you rich?

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    • Some do, and not for money. Older men can be very attractive if they retain a full head of hair and aren't too overweight.

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      • strangethingshappen

        unless you're filthy rich then gd luck low life

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  • Grunewald

    OP, if you try to rebut everyone who answers with a reason why it's not normal, what are you seeking from asking the question on here except universal approval? And on a site where opinions fly in all directions, why won't you bear to have someone disagree with you without trying to refute them? Do you have an uneasy conscience? If it's uneasy, you know, maybe listen to it. I know it's hard...

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  • Cheerleader1040

    I understand what you are saying about feeling young so you should date young. But think of it this way... I'm 15 (just an example) so I should be able to drink, have sex, get married, etc. just because I feel like I'm 30. You could be that boys mother or grandmother.

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    • Well a 26 year old could be the mother of a 13 year old... they could be dating in 5 years. I really don't see what the big deal is in any age difference since none of us live very long.

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      • strangethingshappen

        IT'S about morality not your own selfishness just because of "feeling a certain age"

        That's no excuse.

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        • Don't need an excuse.

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    • strangethingshappen

      on point

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  • RoseIsabella

    Ask the parents of an 18 year old what they think!

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    • Irrelevant.

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      • sillygirl77

        You're irrelevant

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        • strangethingshappen

          who are you saying this too?

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          • sillygirl77

            To the anonymous post author, but it was a joke

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    • Nickvey

      he is not fucking the parents. piss on what they think. they can get thir own 18 year old to fuck

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      • strangethingshappen

        Fuck off

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        • Nickvey

          turn me in.

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  • thecatcherintherye

    If you like or love someone, who likes or loves you too, and you are both adults... Why not? I always wonder why people waste their time judging other people's love lives. I mean, it's your life. Whatever makes you and your date happy, right?

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    • strangethingshappen

      You don't get it.

      The age gap is significantly big.

      He could easily be her father so it's disgusting.

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      • thecatcherintherye

        The thing is that I *do* get it! My boyfriend and I differ 18 years and it works just fine. I guess we are mentally more or less the same age, and often I forget that he’s quite a bit older than me. It doesn’t matter, we are on the same level. We’re both adults and make the choices that feel right for us.
        Also, ‘It’s disgusting’ is a very subjective argument. It’s fine if you feel that way. But I guess I feel different about it.

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  • Countess_Kittycat

    There are many problems that come with that. One of them is knowing when you are wanted, since most young people don't want to date you or have romantic relationships with you. If you try to have relationships with them casually, you may easily become inconvenient.

    Another problem is that you have extremely different life experiences from people who are much younger than you. Ok, you may feel like you are 24, but you really are not, and you do have to some extent the baggage of someone who is 50 years old. This may lead the relationship to become unequal, disrespectful and even abusive depending on how everything goes. These are some of the reasons why parents are really suspicious of relationships like these. Besides, 18 is really, really young. If you look for people who are coming out of grad school, at least they have a mindset that is much closer to that of a full-fledged adult, and the inequality is likely to be much less remarkable than in a possible relationship with a young adult still in their late teens. I mean, the age gap is still going to be great and the problem is still going to be there, but, at least, I believe it's going to be much less extreme than it's likely to be if you are dating someone who is just out of high school. Think about it.

    Finally, there is also the question about how the future is going to be for your significant other. They are most likely going to outlive you for decades, and that can be a very serious problem for them when you are gone. You should also think of the consequences of your relationships for the other person, and, alhough the age gap may not look like a problem for you personally, it most likely is going to be a problem for them for at least these three reasons. And, remember, none of these reasons take into account discrimination by the rest of society, but that does not mean discrimination is not going to be an extra problem. You should really think really well before deciding to date people so much younger than you.

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  • FoleyCatheterLover

    i think it's great if you going to take care of her and leave your estate to her ..why not i am 61 with a lot of money saved if my wife goes i will get a 18-25 year old it's like buying art it's great to look at...Life is short enjoy it

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  • Nickvey

    the only bad thing about fucking an 18 year old when you are 52 is the wetness and tightness can be addictive . the old birds your age have dried up. and under the panties it looks like an old catcher's mitt. so i think its best to stick with an 18 year old. just get a vasectomy and dont tell them about it. So the believe they have a shot at having a baby. and when they do get pregnant have proof you are sterile and kick them out.

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    • sparklepanda

      You're repulsive

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    • Countess_Kittycat

      What an absolute jerk.

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome

    Normal and legal.

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  • Cannelle

    If you're not a bad person, then you're not. Don't listen to what over people say. Society always wants everyone to exist in the norm, trying to go outside the boundaries and you get mocked, scolded, critized, or worse.

    If you like someone who is of legal age and you are older, and they like you back, I don't really think there's a problem.

    Also, on feeling like you're younger I have a similar issue (I'm 23) I feel like I'm still16/17.

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    • strangethingshappen

      It's about what is right and what is wrong.

      The bigger picture is 18 is basically a big young kid where as 52 they're old enough to be the parent.

      Sure we can feel a different age to what we actually are and sure age is just a number but in some cases the age gap is just too big to the point where it's immoral.

      He's way older/the older one here, therefore, should be being the bigger person and dating people around his own age and stop preying on the younger generation.

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      • Cannelle

        And who’s “right and wrong” are we speaking of?

        “Society’s.”

        You’re all brainwashed, by rights and wrongs. By society’s good vs bads. If the guy wants to date an 18 year old, let em’, if he gets in trouble for it, his problem.

        We don’t know this guy, he is literally a stranger. An anonymous stranger.

        We really don’t have say in this guy’s life. We can’t say “yes” or “no”. We’re just words on a screen with little to no feelings attached.

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  • Kevinevan

    Fuck what others think but dude, 18 year olds are seriously fucking annoying.

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    • Not all.

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  • dirtybirdy

    It's not wrong, but dont expect it to last.

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    • Zorak

      Cougar birdy.

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      • dirtybirdy

        Nah, i could be, buuut....my bf is 52....:)

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    • Nickvey

      last? he should be looking for a 17 year old for next year . of course it won't last. maybe she has a younger sister.

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      • strangethingshappen

        you are a freak

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        • Nickvey

          turn me in,

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          • strangethingshappen

            That's no come back.
            Nice try

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  • Coco_1

    I think it's normal. I am extremely young but I wouldn't mind getting a guy your age if he's hot.

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  • WeirdoMcWeirdFace

    You're both adults. Nothing wrong in my eyes. Just something ya don't see every day, that's all.

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    • edwininthematrix

      an 18 year old is not an adult no matter how much they think they are. besides there will always be a huge difference in maturity and life outlook between an 18 year old and someone in their 50s.

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      • WeirdoMcWeirdFace

        The transition in the body from childhood to adulthood happens at 18. The mind, on the other hand, fully develops at 25.

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      • Depends.

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  • Nickvey

    its Ok to date and fuck them but they will steal all your money if you marry one of them . Even the gross fats ones . so no problemo dude. Just get a vasectomy so he can't have a baby.

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  • ChiggerDaMan

    Be sure to pay her as if she was an escort. Sugar daddies that don't pay up are trash scum.

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    • Nickvey

      bullshit , feeding the bears is dangerous better to give them nothing at all.

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  • strangethingshappen

    That's disgusting and perverted.

    She could be your daughter for goodness sakes! Date someone your own age and stop preying on youngsters

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    • Stupid argument.

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      • strangethingshappen

        Definitely not

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    • Nickvey

      someone is jealous

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      • strangethingshappen

        I am a woman firstly and secondly you're not funny but a sicko so go and find yourself some help because you need it

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  • If the 52 year old is a guy, it's ok. If the 52 year old is a woman, it's just too creepy.

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    • SniperMoose

      There is no difference.

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    • strangethingshappen

      wtf they're both just as bad especially if it's a 52 yr old man.

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    No, it's not normal. I don't care how you "feel", you have a whole host of life experience that an 18 year old simply doesn't. 18 is the arbitrary age of maturity we've decided as a society to set that works in general, but dating someone that much younger than you is seriously creepy and makes it sound like, for some reason or other you can't attract anyone your own age so you need to go take advantage of someone way too naieve to know what they're signing up for.

    Most 18 year olds are barely ready for adult responsibility. They may have had few or no relationships, may have never held a serious job or even be living on their own. They don't know much about the "real world" yet, they probably haven't been exposed to as many difficult situations and haven't fully mentally developed. There's a reason you need to be older to drink, or buy a gun or sign a contract - because an 18 year old still hasn't fully developed long term thinking and their mental development is ongoing up until their mid 20s.

    So sure, they're an "adult." But almost no 18 year old is making an informed decision when they're deciding to date someone over twice their age - the difference in maturity and experience would make it akin to a 16 year old and a 7 year old.

    Even assuming you found a unicorn of a youngster who was very mature, who did have their shit already together, and who was fully aware of the risks and consequences endemic to adult life... would you really want to fall in love with, start a life with, someone who's going to outlive you by that much of a degree? They're going to be widowed in the middle of their lifespan. They're going to be in their 30s or 40s and taking care of you when you get older and your health begins to decline. And if they really love you too, that's going to hurt like hell. I just couldn't imagine doing that to someone or being in that situation - I've always had it as a rule that I wouldn't date terribly far outside of my age range for those very reasons.

    So no, it's not normal, and you should find someone your own age.

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    • strangethingshappen

      well said

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    • Countess_Kittycat

      Completely agree.

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  • lordofopinions

    Enjoy it while you can. The fad will fade on her and she will move on sooner or later.

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  • sissycakes

    Leave all 18 year olds alone. I repeat leave all 18 year olds alone.

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  • YamaMayaNyaa

    Well it's not illegal...just frowned upon.

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  • Obblop

    Close to retirement age and I STILL get come-ons from late teen-aged gals and up. Having a very physical build far from the norm is very appealing to some gals. I believe it is instinctive for some gals seeking safety and protection. I flirt for fun with them but the mental difference is too great for anything more than that. Does make an old coot feel good, though!!!!

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  • Nickvey

    so i was dating this 18 year old one time she was hot but somthing just wasnt right , like she was too eager for sex when i was trying to get into her panties for weeks, so i backed off and trusted my gut. Turns out she was already pregnant . she had gone to a drive inn with a big group of college kids and one fingered her in the back seat with cum fingers. well she married this 35 year old guy two months latter but he did the math and booted her out. man i dodged a bullet on that one i tell you what. its ok to date them for sex but plan ahead and get a vasectomy if you are 58. you dont have to tell them you are sterile , thats between you and the boys.

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  • DDJenny

    It's normal to think that way when u r older, but fortunately younger folks typically don't, so you are likely out of luck. Keep fantasizing though!

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  • Nickvey

    18 year old pussy is great , you will get a lot of Clinton types that will be pissed that they can't get any cock that will insist you are a bad man. No , what would be great is if you share her with some buddies.

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    • strangethingshappen

      Fuck off freak

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      • RoseIsabella

        ... and people wonder why I despise many older men.

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        • strangethingshappen

          Exactly! I know (from experience) many females agree with us.

          No wonder some rape, they're so pathetic and despite. I despise them

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          • ChiggerDaMan

            If the girl allows herself to get penetrated by geriatric cock in exchange for money, what's the problem? Whores will be whores. It isn't his fault. He pays her a fair price.

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      • Nickvey

        turn me in

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        • strangethingshappen

          I feel sorry for you :(

          You need help

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