I have a painful crooked nose.

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So I guess I want to start out by saying I've had 3 different surgeries on my nose to open it up and to stop the pain I experience everyday. I went all throughout high school and didn't really have much of a problem with it until I grew into it. As of now I'm 2 years out of highscool and have been dealing with a reoccurring "reference" towards my nose out in public. Anywhere I seem to go there's at least 1 person that has to draw attention to my nose. Whether it's through sniffling the whole time we interact, to touching their noses when I make eye contact with them, i never seem to get a break. At first I'd just shrug it off assuming they might actually need to snifflle or maybe they're just plain aggressive for no good reason. But time and time again I'm oh so coincidentally proven wrong. Strangers have made an effort to make me insecure in public about my nose. I feel like I'm never going to be able to lead a normal life when I'm consistently challenged by so many people out in public. It hurts my fucking heart and I just don't understand it... I see all these "normal" people around me not having to deal with such things, I feel extremely singled out. I've seen an therapist and my parents have tried to put me on anti anxiety meds because they don't know how to help me. Everywhere I go someone has to remind me of my flaw and it leads to a combination of hurt, depression, anger, and hopelessness no matter how I try to see through it. Will i ever get to live a normal life??? This has broken me down to my core... maybe I'd be able to let it roll off my back if I didn't suffer physically from it. It brings me pain that makes me afraid to keep living. It's very deep. I don't expect these strangers to know that, I just expect some humility... I don't understand the mentality. I've never had it in me to focus on a stranger and make it my little mission to make them feel insecure.... maybe it's my age(19)? Maybe it's the fact that I'm a male? I just don't know. This seems to come from younger and sometimes older males, and very rarely will a woman impose this on me. What would you do? I already know this isn't normal, all I'm looking for is a little light that could be shed on this.

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  • Ratmanforelife
    6 years ago

    I hate whiners. Lots of people live with worse things Bozo. You are otherwise able bodied and sound of mind. You have all of your limbs. So you're not likely to get a date for Saturday night. So what? Women can be easily bought. Wear a mask or something I don't know. Just stop whining about it. You're pathetic.

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  • Tilki77
    6 years ago

    Just focus on being more kind to yourself. Look at other areas of your life and try to see if anything else is bothering you and causing you to fixate on this so badly that it is screwing up your self esteem and self concept.

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  • AntiArchon
    6 years ago

    you probably have social anxiety thats why your'e so sensitive., don't mind the assholes commenting on your nose but for those who really get in your face about it come up with something witty and put them to shame.. just always remember other people's thoughts about your nose is irrelevant and wont affect you and your life if you dont let it.. bullies have their own issues and are just lashing out.. you should probably see a therapist if this problem's really ingrained in your head and build a stroger mindset.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Alright, you're hyper-sensitive about a physical flaw and it's destroying other aspects of your life. But it's your mental frame that's really screwing you over.

    I was willing put money on you being a girl from your tone--and that's not a compliment. You've got to get tougher mentally or you'll stay in shambles. You're a guy and a jacked up nose isn't a game-ender especially if you go for a tough guy look.

    Start lifting weights and sorting yourself out.

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