I hate birthday, and only think of them as a gift grab

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I hate birthdays.

Every year in the month of my birthday, I get extremely depressed the closer my birthday draws near.

I hate birthdays cause I'm going to be a 27 year old virgin who never had her first kiss; I become one year older, still have never done it, thus even more depressed than the last one. I'd prefer if I never had a birthday at all.

But since I'm stuck having one... I think of birthdays as a gift grab and nothing more. Really, it's cause while these presents don't completely take away the deep emotional pain I feel, it's a band aid that brings me temporary relief and distraction from my suffering.

When I don't get any presents, I just pay more attention to what's bothering me and become even more upset.

I really hate years when some family members decide to take me out to dinner instead of an actual present; This dinner is always an unpleasant affair full of insults and body shaming directed at me.

My female family member laugh at me for being open about my love for food and not eating just a few scraps at the all you can eat buffett, like they do. They laugh at me for finishing my entree, while they just take a few bites then ask the server for a box. I shouldn't have to justify being hungry! It'd be cheaper for them, and less distressing for me if they just gave me a 20, or even a 10, dollar bill.

Please don't give me that "save your virginity got somebody special" line. I am aromantic, extremely frustrated sexually, and just want a hookup or fling. I could never handle a long term/serious relationship.

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  • Meowypowers
    5 years ago

    That was a lot. No paragraphs either. I'll answer your question. I hate my birthday too but not for or against gifts, just because I don't like so much attention thrown my way.

    As far as being fat, or eating cake or whatever that is a different topic.

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      I will always want cake on my birthday!

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      • Meowypowers
        5 years ago

        I have a headache and my sister is a bit of a cunt. I am ordering pizza!

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        • RoseIsabella
          5 years ago

          Right on! It's always a good time for pizza!

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  • libertybell
    5 years ago

    I would love to trade places with you. No sexual mistakes! I've been with some men that I regret being with. I feel dirty and gross all the time.
    Tell your family specific gifts that you want, and maybe they'll spend money on those instead of going out to eat.

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    • gettheshovel
      5 years ago

      To each their own. My body and hormones constantly nag me, very hard to deal with. 😢

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  • 12Ncrawler35
    5 years ago

    You honestly should just get yourself out there and party. Go to a club and meet a guy that is not a creep.

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    You are not too old yet to be going to clubs. There is of course the online dating thing or "tinder" which is a hook-up site.

    Better to try in person though cause online dating really is as bad as people say it is.

    My room mate has a similar problem. She likes women so of course her family gets on her about bullshit like how she should date men, lose weight, go back to church, whatever.

    I do not know if you date men or women but if you prefer men - hooking up should not be hard. Despite what men might say, they are not known to turn down easy sex.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Happy Birthday, OP! I hope you get some good presents.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I'd love to be 27 again!

    I have in the past come to loathe birthday dinners on certain occasions. I got really tired of going out to restaurants with my folks, and my sister, because it had become almost routine. It felt like torture to me to have to go someplace for steak and lobster which I do in fact love, but it's all ruined by the presence of my younger sister making a big to do about how she loves it, because she never turns down a free meal. Also, she loves, and I mean she freaking loves to just talk about herself the entire time, and basically act as if she's holding court at my birthday dinner. I just started to feel like it was a big waste of time, and money. It's a waste of money that my folks could be spending on a gift instead. It's not like I don't recieve birthday gifts, but going out to dinner like that with my sister feels like punishment. I remember a few years back I said I didn't want to go out to dinner to celebrate my birthday, but instead I wanted to just order pizza, and have a birthday cake. My sister acted surprised, but whatever. Another thing she does is to not show up, and then expect my mom to order takeout from the restaurant. My mom humors her of course, because she says my sister is lonely. She said she had a headache when I had my pizza, and cake party so then she actually had the nerve to request that we bring her some pizza, and cake before I even get home to have some myself. We did bring her some pizza, but I called bullshit on the cake, because the whole point of the cake is for the birthday person to get sung to, and blow out the damn candles. Only a massive narcissist would actually suggest that we cut out her piece of damn cake before I even get to celebrate. Sometimes I just hate my sister. She's so full of herself that I want to see her get humiliated, and fall flat on her face.

    Sorry for the rant. Just try to make the best of your birthday, and if ya'll simply must go out to eat make sure that you pick the venue instead of someone else.

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    • leggs91200
      5 years ago

      Steak and lobster is righteous but yes, at the dinner table with the wrong company would still ruin it. Talk about taking the bad with the good.

      When me and my step sister were kids, mom would fix good meals typically but then we would have to listen to bullshit more often than not. Dinner was one time her and I never fought but i think it is because the parents were too busy bringing up uncomfortable subjects. Just like dentist appointments, some letter from the school, some family drama, or just whatever.

      My sister and I used to call the occasion not "supper" but "suffer".
      So maybe Rose would say, "for my birthday I am going out to suffer with my my sister and the family".

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      • gettheshovel
        5 years ago

        Already had a preview of my birthday, with it being Thanks giving today.

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