I find sex boring

Seriously I find sex boring. I spend so long looking after my partner during it I can't get myself off once I'm done with them.
I just have never had the feeling anyone that I have been with cares anywhere near the same for my enjoyment that I do for theirs.
So to reiterate I find that sex is a long and difficult, repetitive task that I honestly feel I'm good at but really don't enjoy. Is this normal?

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  • wistfulmaiden

    You may not be doing it right;)

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    • In what way?

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      • wistfulmaiden

        Do something you find exciting even if it seems weird at first . Like dress up or use toys or watch interesting porn.

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        • In theory and fantasy I love practically everything. It's the reality of sex that I find boring. It's not that I'm not horny or that I can't perform I maturate all the time and I can easily get myself off (I say easily it still takes a while but is worth it) but when I lay down with a partner It's not good

          Also When I masturbate I fantasize about getting other people off I don't even work for me there either.

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          • wistfulmaiden

            Hmm maybe try not to touch yourself for a few days and see if that makes a difference

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  • KingTermite

    Just need to find the right partner, that's all that's missing. More later, must run.

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  • Forestheart

    Do you know what sex is? It's not a codeword for monopoly, you know that right?

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    • Trust me I find monopoly very exciting. But I never look after the people I'm playing with there no I play to win.

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  • Gspyder

    Take charge and make sure you get off

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  • flyingnostalgia

    Find a new hobby.

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  • dick555

    You have a lot to learn about all the aspects of sexual activities.

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  • orgasmio7

    You need some counselling in sexual techniques (& your partner).
    Meanwhile, look for a good sex manual - you were born with a clitoris for a the purpose of enjoying orgasms!

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    • Okay Hi I'm amazed that I have to keep saying this but I'm a man.

      Also I've read tonnes of manuals and studied up but all of them are mostly about her to get her off to be honest. It's like I don't matter there too.

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  • youdneverguesswho

    It's normal but it doesn't have to be that way. It's okay to be more selfish in bed. If you have partners who always receive and never give much back, I suggest you look for more caring, giving partners, or have a heart-to-heart with the one you are with if he/she is otherwise a keeper. Maybe suggest a fun game where one time you do everything to please your partner while s/he just soaks it all in, and the next time reverse roles. Then give him/her lots of positive feedback and after that when you are fooling around, tell them, "I loved it when you ..., will you do that again for me?"

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  • seaturtle

    Wait for the one that will do it.

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  • olliekatz

    If u r not enjoying it, you're (probably)not doing it right. Might want 2 try some variations, like anal sex and/or/or-both getting a new partner who can really appreciate u...morning, noon & night ... in sex & lots of other ways!

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  • sexysonofsam

    If you are not enjoying it, you are not doing it right. different strokes for different folks, but if you are just "enduring" it for his sake, fuck him and find somebody who will rock your boat!

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    • I don't "endure" it I work very hard to get her off and she seems to appreciate it.

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      • sexysonofsam

        If you are "working very hard" you are not having sex my friend, you are "working" and work is an automated thing if you do it long enough it becomes a sort of second nature and you do it without really thinking about it!

        Rather look at her beautiful body, her breasts, her pussy...take it all in, see it for the beautiful thing that it is...then ravish her with passion, don`t think about it, just ravish her!

        a change of perspective is as good as a holiday!

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        • Wait no. When I do that she doesn't get off.

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  • HiAGAIN10

    Youre a girl?

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    • No. Why? Is your response different if I am?

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  • Mrs_Hatake

    Maybe you just haven't found the right person yet? I dunno :/ But I feel for you cos I know what a chore boring unfulfilling sex can be :(

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  • iinotnormal

    First, you got to be a chick, because, no dude would EVER say that. I am a dude, so, I know this for a fact.

    So, with that in mind, you need to relax! You don't need to worry about HIM getting off, rub it long enough and he'll come. I am sure ANYTHING you do he finds pleasing. Just laying there with your legs wide open is enough, he'll do the work.

    Now, with that said, if you don't enjoy it, it's because you weren't in the "mood" in the first place.

    Have him give you a NICE back rub first, start with clothes on, SLOWLY progress to less and less clothes until naked.

    Second, he needs to START by getting you off, not the reverse. I always try to give my woman 5 or 6 orgasms first...at least, sometimes more, sometimes less, it depends on how much time we have! But, regardless, once your motor is "running" and you have had 1 or 2, he can get going to the finish line, I guarantee you will both finish together!

    Now, if that doesn't work, well, it is time you start having an emotional connection to whomever you are sleeping with!

    Doesn't he notice you are not into it???

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    • Sorry Dude Wrong on even the most basic of points. I'm a man and a Bi man so it's both man and women whom I've found displeasing in the sack.

      Also If you honestly think the male orgasm is really that simple I pity any guy that finds himself with you. Women have to work just as hard as men in the bedroom.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I dunno, I don't generally try to please anyone who isn't pleasing me.

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    • Lonely2

      Tit for tat

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      • RoseIsabella

        Yeah, I mean what's the point in trying to please someone who isn't trying to please me? Why would I do that?

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        • Lonely2

          I was trying to be funny, but since you asked, I think reducing sex to a contract would take the enjoyment out of it , although as far as the overall relationship- I totally agree with you.

          I dated a girl who always wanted oral sex but never wanted to give it...in fact she didnt even like to give sex but sort of endured it as a reward for oral....

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          • RoseIsabella

            See if I were you I would see that chick's attitude in the bedroom as a dealbreaker. I think it's important to love and respect one's self enough to not let a user stick around. No offense to you, brah, but that chick sounds hella selfish.

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            • Lonely2

              I dumped her...but it was hard because she was smoking hot...maybe the most physically attractive girl I ever dated

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    • heckleBucker

      I'm gonna pinch your butt.

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      • RoseIsabella

        No.

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