I don't get it. iin?
Women want their partners to be rich and choose them based on the money they have. But they don't like it when you truthfully call them whores because of it. What's up with that?
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Women want their partners to be rich and choose them based on the money they have. But they don't like it when you truthfully call them whores because of it. What's up with that?
The problem is that you are mixing up "most women" and "prostitutes". Women want security (emotional, financial, etc.) If you're going to start a family with someone, isn't it reasonable to seek out a stable environment that's going to stay stable?
Prostitutes, however, sell sex (and only sex) for money. Most women don't sell anything; you enter into partnership with them for the sake of each other and any potential children.
If you think all women are prostitutes, it's no wonder you'd traduce them this way. But in your world, where every woman is a prostitute, what does that make you?
There's an odd dichotomy at play here that makes this a complex issues to discuss, and far from black and white. If you're straight up going for the richest catch you can find and that's all you care about, that's one thing and it isn't good.
It is however perfectly reasonable to want someone stable enough that they won't be depending on you.
BUT, any woman OR man should have the right to choose to stay home and take care of the family rather than being the breadwinner. But that's the sort of thing that requires a mutual agreement and lenghty discussion, not the thing you expect to happen because of arcane standards of how relationships work.
There is research that suggests children who have one parent stay at home can turn out better for it, but whichever parent makes that decision, they're taking a huge risk putting their financial security in the hands of their partner. And of course, if you're a man and try to do this people will question your masculinity, which is just ridiculous.
We gave women the freedom to break out of traditional gender roles, why leave the men stuck there?
That makes me think of a guy I dated years ago. He dressed smartly, was so gorgeous and everything. I liked him. Then he told me about an injury he got while playing football. For one year he couldn't work and he spent much money trying to save his foot. He was heavily indepted by the time I met him. I felt bad for him but I was repulse by the thought that maybe I would have to support him. I was quite happy when the story ended.
I deleted my post because I decided to do my own research. I don't even know why I posted that for this topic. Probably because I am used to people on this site making claims that have little actual evidence to support them XD But your claim is "on the money" so to speak (pun intended!).
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/18/do-women-want-rich-men_n_879760.html
You might be interested in reading that. I often study human evolution in relation to human psychology and women wanting to marry "rich men" is such common knowledge within the field that if you are truly curious and you do not understand why women opt for men who have the resources to be able to support them, then I can only assume that you do not study evolutionary psychology. I would recommend you do so, it might answer a lot of your questions regarding gender-specific behaviors.
The women's rights movement obviously took a lot of women out of this position because many women are now much more aware than ever that putting your financial security solely into the hands of a man (or any other party) pretty much surrenders your power and well-being to them (which is a risk many women prefer not to take), but in the end, evolution has had it's final say for many women AND many men (read the article and you'll understand why I added men into the mix).
Study evolution and it's relation to human psychology and I promise that this will make more sense to you.
"A report by Dr. Catherine Hakim released in January showed that women are choosing richer husbands, or "marrying up" more today than they did in the 1940s. And a controversial 2009 study found that while several factors affected a woman's reported enjoyment of sex, the most influential was her partner's income."
>> This is a very interesting passage of your article, especially the last sentence.
You are right, it makes more sense to me now. The thing is, now I wish I didn't ask at all. This reality makes me wanna kill myself.
I'm done with this world and I'm constituting my own reality.
One more thing: bringing evolution into this is like saying: "Yes, all women are whores, but it is not their fault, it's their nature."
"One more thing: bringing evolution into this is like saying: "Yes, all women are whores, but it is not their fault, it's their nature.""
Look, there are evolutionary reasons behind most human behaviors, you wanted an explanation, I gave it to you. Most people can help which kind of lifestyle that they opt for and some women opt for the lifestyle of being a, as you call it, "whore". I gave you an evolutionary reason as to what would drive a woman to do that.
Obviously, many human beings have been able to work past our evolutionary urges (many by way of being raised properly to respect the moral fabric of our society, our bodies and to not run around like animals in heat, fucking, killing and conquering everything that we see) and a lot of what has been accomplished in humanity has been accomplished because of this. This is practically undeniable to all but the most stubborn parties.
If you want to take this as me saying that all women are whores, and by extension, I am a whore, then you are free to do as you wish. However, anyone who has done any research into evolutionary psychology can tell you that while there are seemingly gender-specific behaviors on the books, humans display a WIDE range of behaviors adopted through evolution and this particular trait is just one trait.
I provided you with an explanation. Not an excuse. We can all help the way we act, but there are reasons behind what people do and evolutionary psychology explains a few of them. I could have gone into the sociological explanations as well, but I shudder to imagine how you would interpret THOSE...
On the opposite side of the spectrum there are sugar mommas and lazy men lol I don't even know what you would call a guy like that? I wouldn't really say "women want their parteners to be rich etc.." But "some women etc.." No one wants to be called a whore I guess? I mean, if you're a pervert and you are always staring at women chests, do you want to be call out on being a pervert? Probably not, but I don't know you.. lol
It is human instinct, a whore is someone who puts out for money. Saying someone who wants someone to monetarily take care of them is freaking human nature!! It's not like the cave women were any different, they wanted the best hunter/gatherer/provider. Just some women are dumb enough to fall for love, like me, lol
It extends farther then just not having money, many women today wont bother with certain guys, even perfectly stable, able to provide, all around decent guys just because they arent 6' or more, or bigger then average elsewhere if you know what I mean. I dont know how this mentality came about, but its certainly there. And/Or those guys who are the life of the party (read loudmouth douchebags) women enjoy men like that, because its "exciting" and "dramatic", not to mention the extra attention they get because they are attached to that same guy. Women may say they want stability and to leave the drama behind them, but the fact is the men who are stable come off as "boring" to many of these same women. Perhaps its related back to how emotional women are, which never really changes and because of this and the emotional swings they experience, those guys who are more unstable and unpredictable (bad boys) come off as more attractive and enticing.