I don’t want to go to my friend’s baby shower

My friend Camila is having her baby shower next month, has invited me and my close friend Darla and I don’t want to attend for several reasons. Firstly (and most trivially) I’m not a mom or “baby person” and feel a bit weirded out at baby focused events, her other friends are also mostly older than me and in a totally different life stage or they speak limited English. Trying to make conversation with them is just awkward.

If those were the only issues I would suck it up and show my face for an hour but the main problem is that her friend and my ex-friend Bella will probably be there. My friendship with Bella died years ago as she was flaky, judgemental and generally fake but Darla flat out despises her due to their past fights. I have no interest in fighting with Bella but have no interest in spending time with her either.

For context I did attend Camilla’s gender reveal party and Darla and I were polite to Bella then, I will also be giving a gift regardless of my attendance. Mean as it may sound I feel like I’ve “done my bit” in terms of attending uncomfortable baby events, this feels like a re-run.

Is there a polite way of telling Camilla I don’t want to go to her shower? (If I lie that I “have something on that day” she will be able to tell.)

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  • kelili

    YOU are limited because obviously you understand only English.

    If you don't want to go just tell her that you cannot make it. Don't give any reason and you won't be lying.

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    • Who said I only understand English (I don’t)? These people are from a tiny European country where the only people who know their native language are people who live there or have family from there.

      Assumptions aside that’s what I’ve decided to do.

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  • litelander8

    The whole gender reveal thing is just ridiculous. I definitely wouldn’t attend two parties. I also avoid any situation I want Bc I’m grown and I don’t have to if I don’t want to. I would just pretend like you’re going and then fake sick the day of and make a date to hang with the mom to be to give her the present. Fuck it.

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    • Finally someone else who thinks two parties is too much!

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    If it were me I'd go to support my friend because I care about my friend's happiness but if you really feel uncomfortable I'm sure she'll understand and forgive you

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    I think you should go but I understand why you wouldnt want to

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  • Wow3986

    So you hate babies?

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  • MonteMetcalfe

    Does this friend expect gifts at both the gender reveal party & the baby shower?

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    • No, just the shower, it’s not a gift grab at least.

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