I'd rather have a group of close friends than a girlfriend

I've always wanted to have a group of friends that I was really close and affectionate with. Friends who I really deeply loved and who loved me back, who I could hug sincerely and say "I love you" without too much embarrassment. Friends that I could talk honestly with about emotional stuff, and who I could cry to if I was upset (and obviously where I'd help them through hard times as well). Of course I'm not saying that's what it'd be like all the time. Most of the time we'd have fun together, hanging out, joking around, watching movies, going out, getting drunk/high, etc. The stuff that makes life fun and joyful. But where they were more than just the people I hang with, or more than just drinking partners.

I'm a guy though, and it seems like society would view that as strange. Like the only friends a guy should have are the lads he meets out at the pub and has a few pints with, and slags off about the footy. I'm not saying that those people aren't real friends, just because they don't talk about personal stuff and would feel uncomfortable hugging. But that's not the kind of friendship I want.

Even if that wasn't viewed as strange though, it just seems to me like friendship is viewed as superfluous in society. Like it's only something youngsters have before they meet their future spouse, and then they get married and then that's all that matters. Even all their best friends they've had for years are expendable then, nevermind making any new friends. But I think I'd rather my friends were the main loves of my life, and then I could either stay single so I could sleep around, or if I did ever find a permanent partner, then it wouldn't be the end of the world if we broke up. I wouldn't feel depressed and alone, and worry that I'd never find love again. I think this would be a better system, or at least it should be seen as a good alternative lifestyle.

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  • kikilizzo

    I think thats what a lot of people want. When I feel lonely my family always tries to make me get a partner as if that's the solution. A group of friends is definietely healthier to seek and friendship is more fun honestly. A relationship is tons of work all the time but it's great if one is ready for it. A partner shouldn't be ones entire life, especially since relationships do often end.
    I think its a shame that men feel they cant have close friendships. I had a guy friend who always felt lonely because he only had shallow friendships he'd drink or party with. I think that is why some guys prefer female friends.

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  • Rumpelforeskin

    Understandable. A tight knit supportive group is a normal thing to want. An added bonus is that without a wife you'll have a full wallet.

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  • lelouch82

    I'd rather die than to date an actual 3D girlfriend, 2D girls all the way bro.

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  • Curiouskitten444

    Amen

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  • Grunewald

    It isn't normal, but it should be.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I'd rather have a cat than a boyfriend.

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  • Anonnet

    I mean, ideally you'd have both.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    I think most guys want friends like that. But that doesnt mean it has to be one or thr other. You can have a girlfriend and guy friends like that.

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  • Wow3986

    I'm sure those friends have pronouns.

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