I am sexually attracted to my husbands friend

Ok let me say this first, my husband and I are in a very loving monogamish relationship. I would never do anything to hurt him. Monogamish means something similar to an open relationship but he and I are committed solely to each other and we have multiple sexual partners. However we have the restriction that we must both be present during anything with the other or be participating.
Ok now to the real issue. I am very sexually attracted to my husbands long term friend. I am submissive and a masochistic and whenever I'm around him I just really want him to use me however he pleases. However I already know that my husband is not into this idea. I will not act upon my desires because I know it will hurt him and I would never want that. I just really needed to get it off my chest since I've been trying to push it down for a year now.

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  • I respect your decision. To be in the type of relationship your are in there must be trust and rules set by you and your husband. Because once you open the door and any trust you have goes out. It's almost impossible to get back.

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  • Personally I think a relationship that involves sex with others outside of the marriage is just a bad and unhealthy idea. Sex brings you and your husband closer in so many ways, and it's giving yourselves to each other and each other only. And that's such a beautiful thing. I would have a lot of doubts and fears if I was in a relationship involving lots of people like that.

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    • On the contrary, I have very strong views on marriage. I do not believe in divorce so I'm in this for the rest of my life. Having a third or fourth person come in once or twice with the both of us occasionally really helps to release stress and make both of us feel attractive and good in bed. We make each other feel that too, but there is only so much one person's opinion can do. I am strongly monogamous when it comes to emotions and love, however sex is very casual to us.

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      • I feel if he totally trusts you,then he would not be against you getting fucked by his friend. My wife and I have an open relationship and we fuck each other,but also others on the side. It's ok with us as long as we tell each other first. It sounds to me like your husband ether doesn't totally trust you,or he's somewhat insecure

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        • He just isn't into his friend sexually at all. Since we do things as a sort of group situation he feels strange being that intimate with his friend

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  • You can try to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel about it. I wouldnt do this because its going to be weird for your husband to hang out with his friend knowing that yall had a thing, especially if his friend doesnt know yall swing.

    I would personally, if I were you, just have sex with the friend without letting your hubby know. Because what he doesnt know cant hurt him. You could make a kinky game out of it too. Just tell his friend not to tell him. Then if he finds out it still wont be a big deal if yall are swingers. Honestly it might even make him horny because you're being such a slut.

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  • Maybe your husband will change his mind in future? I have a married female "friend" who I know would be DTF me but she isn't in an open relationship, so that's not going to happen anytime soon.

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  • i dont know your husband

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    • I don't expect you to? Its anonymous after all?

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  • It’s just sex! Do what you want.

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    • Message me

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    • I don't want to hurt him though, I think he feels inferior to his friend, so while people he doesn't know as well are ok, his friend is not. It's a boundary I won't cross, I have absolutely no romantic attraction to this person either so it's really not worth it. Like I said I'm just trying to get it off my chest so I can get over it.

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    • that’s what i think

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  • are you sure its not your boyfriend's friend?

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    • What do you mean? We are married.

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