I am a 25 year old female who has never kissed

Is it normal to feel so depressed because I am an adult (female) and have never kissed? I will forever feel like I missed out on something... And I think this lack of experience has fucked me up, and also affected what I find attractive and what I yearn for.
Now, I don't even want a first kiss at all. Because... You know. It would be someone I am not attracted to. Have any other adult women never had a first kiss?

Is It Normal?
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  • Yeah but I’ve never really experienced physical attraction toward the opposite sex, and my family is kinda homophobic so I’m a bit repressed there.. I’ll get around to it eventually I guess

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  • Ok I have a question: what do you find attractive and what do you yearn for?

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    • I want an innocent cute first love.

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      • Ok good luck and don’t put too much emphasis on the never been kissed thing. That which we focus on expands and can be debilitating for us. Treat it instead like this quiet, wondrous anticipation for when it happens. You are lucky! You get to experience for the first time what some others have long since forgotten or become desensitised to. There’s thirst in that, passion for life and discovery! You have great treasures still awaiting you, it’s with an adventurers heart that you should embark on this journey of love and self fulfilment.
        I wish you the best

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  • So no first kiss and don't want one at 25. I guess all the other stuff is out of the question as well, like eating cuchie, having yours ate, giving a bj, nibbling on boobs, or just plain out right sex!

    Not a problem at 25, a lot of people are waiting later in life before their first experiences, however, the longer they wait the more you here they are apprehensive about doing it at all. Just like you are saying. I'm not saying just go kiss somebody/anybody, they should mean something to you, but a kiss is not a marriage contract. You may have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince.

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    • Not interested in kissing someone I don't have a crush on, which will never happen

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      • Sometimes that first kiss with someone that weakens the knees is what gives me the crush on someone.

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  • All you can do is try to fix the things about yourself that keeps ppl away

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    • It's not because others didn't want to kiss me... I just never found anyone attractive... But now I wish I had my first kiss as .. well not an adult. Now I don't even want a first kiss at all.

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  • I advise you kiss a random woman you see on the street, in most cultures its accepted as a greeting, im suprised you havent already. I dont know anyone who hasnt kissed before for this reason. perhaps your social circle is shy or smthn, but most people just kiss when they feel the need

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    • I'm not a lesbian and I don't want to kiss a random person only someone I have a crush on.

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  • Don't worry. It is pretty normal. Wait until you get married

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  • People having limited or no romantic experience in their mid 20s is probably more common than we think, it’s just not something people advertise.

    Why do you assume your first kiss would need to be someone you’re not attracted to?

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    • Because let's just say, I'm not attracted to any people I could theoretically kiss.

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  • Can you try to have lots of male “bro”friends? You sort of need to work on comfort level before you can get your hands into the cookie jar.

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    • What's the point? I don't want my first kiss to be as an adult, so now I don't want one at all...

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      • Listen sugar. I’m not talking about your first kiss. I’m talking about your second kiss. The romance novels you’ve been reading don’t tell you this, but kisses keep getting better. Honestly.

        And, there’s a thousand different kinds of kisses. Which is best? It depends on the moment. Kind of like closing your eyes just before you reach into the jar for a cookie. You slowly learn to feel the anticipation.

        Umm, you’ll get there, bro. I think this because you sound friendly. Honestly.

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        • One Valentine's day I believe 9 years ago I gave my wife a bag of I believe 20 different "kisses" on folded strips of paper.

          The bag was a medicine bag from our local pharmacy (without a store/chain name on it), and I attached a prescription to draw out a kiss when needed, and then refold and put it back into the bag after the kiss is over.

          My wife tells me its one of the best gifts I have ever given her... and that bag of "kisses" sits prominently within reach in out bedroom.

          Over the years I'm not even sure if we had done all 20 of them; but it sure has produced a lot of fun and laughter, and spice, in our relationship.

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          • And that's supposed to make me feel better, how?

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            • The reply was to what can possibly happen after you get past your first kiss. I assure you it can be a lot of fun.

              But as to your problem on not yet experiencing your first kiss. Obviously you want someone you have some kind of feelings for and who shares a mutual interest in more than just alcohol, drugs, kissing, sex, etc.

              I suggest that you find a local group that does something you are interested in - and join them for some activities. Don't be pushy, but its OK to let people know that you are hoping to meet someone special who shares a similar interest. Many people will recommend friends or relatives they have to assist you even if they are not themselves available or interested. Most often this happens after they have seen you at several events and can make a judgement about what kind of person you are.

              I wish you the best with this approach. It's the most effective method I know of (and I've seen a lot of other things tried). Key is that you have to get out of the house and get involved in activity groups. That's usually fun for most people (although you may need to check out several different groups in several different activities to find one you are comfortable in).

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            • It’s supposed to make feel kind of intimately imaginative. You’re not a kid anymore.

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  • There's a candy called that. Regardless, I do find it not normal for a woman to not be romantic to a guy. To me women don't want to be single. It's guys who are single because, they haven't found the right one for them. I know from my personal experience. Yes, I'm single at the moment.

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