Husband doesn’t share finances with me?
I wish I didn’t have to ask strangers about this but I do. My husband doesn’t respond well when I ask him financial stuff. He says I’m being a nag. He comes from a very broken family so I understand why he is weary about sharing stuff but it hurts me that he thinks it might happen to us. Anyways we don’t have a joint bank account. We have been married a little over a year. He had a bad credit score when I applied for a mortgage in July(which I didn’t know about). Someone took out a credit card in his name and didn’t pay it off. We don’t know who it was.. However he froze his credit lines and refuses to pay it off. It’s only about 200 dollars. I totally understand why he wouldn’t want to but he also isn’t making an effort with phone calls to try and get it taken off his credit score…. Doesn’t really make sense does it? I have been working so hard to build my credit to buy a house and he still doesn’t even have a credit card. I saved up money to pay his car off to help his score and he won’t give me the paperwork to pay it off. Does this sound normal to anyone? Because to me it just sounds… sketchy. Is it normal to want your spouse to have nothing to do with finances? We live in an apartment and he pays ALL the bills. He doesn’t want me to help.. ? He HAS a nice job but refuses to work on his credit. What should I do about this? It’s very weird and doesn’t seem normal to me, although I don’t have much experience in the financial aspect..
I love him very much and he’s a great person so I feel bad pressing him about it when he obviously doesn’t want to talk about it. And when I tell you he doesn’t want to talk about it.. i mean he will REFUSE to talk about it. Trust me I’ve asked over a million times. He takes care of me, pays the bills, we have a nice two bedroom apartment. I just wish he wanted more out of life? It’s very weird. There is no sitting down and having a heart to heart conversation with him