How many marriages are "loveless" marriages?
My parents were always very close and affectionate both with each other and their kids. I thought their example was how the majority of marriages are. As I've gotten older, I see more and more examples of people who aren't in love getting married for convenience (tax breaks, shared insurance, things like that) or people who at one point were in love who no longer are
Given that half of all marriages end in divorce, is it safe to assume that half of all marriages are unhappy or loveless?
The 50+% divorce rate is skewed by time. Generally people who get married, the longer they stay married the less likely the will divorce, decreasing past 30% by the 18 year mark. Then again most marriages are dissolved because of infidelity or workplace complications.
All I can say for the individual is that if you are judging your chances from a statistic you arent putting your best foot forward/not finding the correct mate.
Prime example my fiancee which without a doubt is my best friend and someone I would bring with on any apocalyptic hypothetical. The criteria I set for a mate perfectly matching with her.
Not all long-lasting marriages are happy though. Divorce is better than mutual destruction.
I think you’re right, most marriages evolve into platonic partnerships over time.
Be grateful that you were lucky enough to grow up with parents who showed you, your siblings and each other affection, the fact that they demonstrated a strong and caring relationship means you will be more equipped to have one of your own one day.
We need to quit selling a lie that marriage is supposed to be a fairy tale disney movie. Marriage is work and a commitment. You owe it to your kids to stay married. It doesnt matter if you are married to the hottest sex pistol in the world you arent gonna have the butterflies for long. It goes away.
My marriage has been loveless for most of the last years. Glad it's over.
Frank and Marie Barone thought they had a loveless marriage until it was proven not to be true.
Out in the state of Arizona, a husband and wife had reared their children. Children had married off, families of their own. The mother took to drinking, she was 64 years of age. She came in one night so drunk she didn’t know what she was doing and started to take a bath in the bathtub with her clothes on.
In utter disgust, the husband said, “I outta take a gun and blow your brains out.” She snarled back at him, “you haven’t got the nerve.”
Shot her dead in the bathtub, fine way to end married life.
Mine was for the last 4 years.
Probably most of them.