How do you feel about a child transitioning their gender?

In case you may not know for whatever reason, there are children who become interested in transitioning their gender from whatever gender they are 'assigned at birth' to a different gender. Sometimes, parents will entertain these thoughts and begin treatment via psychological therapy, hormone therapy, etc.

How do you feel about children transitioning and how far do you think it should go?

I think it's okay. 9
I think it's wrong. 21
I don't know how I feel about it. 5
I think it's up to the parents,children, and/or doctors involved. 6
I think it should be illegal. 11
I have an opinion not listed here. 7
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Comments ( 33 )
  • _Mehhhh_

    Quite nuanced.

    I think children should be allowed to explore a range of gender expression if they seemed interested to, although it shouldn't be pushed onto them.

    I would only ever support a child being put on blockers or anything else if they have CONSISTENTLY expressed a wish to change gender throughout childhood, and have spoken to more than one doctor who has diagnosed them with gender dysphoria. If not, no they can wait.

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  • Ellenna

    I am totally opposed to children being given hormones and/or mutilating surgery: if adults want to put dangerous artificial sex hormones into their bodies and accept the long term side effects that's their decision and their problem and surgery is even more dangerous for a child.

    We're now seeing examples of ADULTS regretting transitioning so children certainly need to wait until they're adults. Kids are easy to brainwash into all sorts of crazes which don't last: eg those little coloured rubber band things a few years ago and more recently finger spinners or whatever they're called. Guess where all that stuff ends up when kids move onto the next craze? In land fill, that's where, polluting the environment even further.

    I sincerely believed I was a boy for a few months when I was about 12 or 13: guess what, I wasn't! I didn't tell anyone, but if it happened now I'd probably be rushed off somewhere for hormone therapy and on a list for surgery down the track.

    People of all ages can feel and behave and dress in whatever ways are comfortable for them whether or not any of that accords with the stereotype for their gender: not a big deal in my opinion but it doesn't necessitate hormones and/or irreversible surgery.

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    • Dustyair

      You took the words right out of my mouth. I personally think it's an agenda driven ideology to convince these very young minds they want to be the opposite gender, dangerous stuff.

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  • NashamaTheWeird

    I think that children should be allowed to go on hormone blockers that delay puberty so that transition will be easier for them as adults, but I don't think they should actually be taking estrogen or testosterone until they are at least 18. Psychological therapy is great no matter the child's age as long as it's about being supportive.

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    • Ellenna

      Nobody knows what damage hormone blockers can do longterm and there's some evidence they're dangerous. Why risk it?

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      • NashamaTheWeird

        Puberty blockers seem to be completely reversible. If a child decides to stop taking them, then natural puberty will set in. It gives a child more time to figure things out and if they really do end up wanting to transition gender it makes the process easier for them as adults.

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        • Ellenna

          "Seem to be"? There's no evidence I know of regarding their long term use so I repeat, why risk it?

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          • NashamaTheWeird

            It makes transition easier and less risky as an adult. It's all about weighing the risks and benefits. It should only be considered in the cases where a child has significant gender disphoria and had been adamant about wanting to be the opposite sex ever since they were aware of the differences between boys and girls.

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            • Ellenna

              So it would be adults deciding whether or not a child should be given hormones when the longterm effects are not known? NO

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  • fakeaccount2

    I would say keep it light, wear other gender's clothes, nbd. I don't get the whole physical transitioning thing myself so I'd Want them as much mental help as possible, but once their 18 they can do whatever they want to their body (I think?). I'd say wait til more like 25+ to make that sort of decision but who am I to stop them. HRT on a child is a bit insane tho and shouldn't be allowed (it's not). Just wear fake titties or a fake dick til you're mentally an adult.

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  • They are children. They should be able to grow into a healthy adult regardless of their own uninformed views of what they want.

    This also protects the child from being convinced to do it from their parents.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    They're children. Most of them don't know what they are and what they want. So I don't think they should make such a big decision at such a young age.

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  • Tealights

    For children, it's best not to put a label on it and just let them innocently explore until they settle on what they want.

    Like, if I had a young son who likes dressing as a princess for Halloween, I wont go, "Son, do you feel like a girl trapped in a boy body? It's okay son! I'll take you to therapy and shit." No. He's too young to even know what that means. For all I know he just likes the color pink or liked some crappy Disney movie he saw at school. But if I talk to him all serious, he going to think he's in trouble and agree with me on everything anyway.

    What I would do is I'll just let my son dress as a princess and let him enjoy the experience; or basically, I feel parents shouldn't overthink that shit because the only thing children should be focused on is growing up. I feel transitioning should be saved for those teenage years or young adult years.

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  • TerriAngel

    Wait till the person is a legal adult.
    18 or so.
    Kids explore, maybe get confused.
    They usually grow out of it.
    There's to many long term consequences for it to be a decision made by a child.

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  • ERSP

    Tell you kid to open his or her pants. If there is a penis it's a he if there is a vagina it's a she and if there is both take a microscope and look for a Y chromosome and if there is no Y chromosome it's a she and if there is it's a he.

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  • Commonsense1984

    IMO before doing something there is going to be backlash if it's out of the norm, have thick skin and not care what other people think.

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  • bob7

    transitioning is better than being gay

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    • rayb12

      OK Iran

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      • bob7

        huh

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        • rayb12

          Iran performs the most gender reassignment surgeries in the world because of this idea

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          • bob7

            good to know , its logical

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  • Ellenna

    PS: Another point: when someone says they believe they are the opposite gender, they're basing this feeling solely on how they imagine it feels to be the other gender. I could imagine I'm another race, but I've never lived the life of a person of that race, so I don't really know.

    It's clear to me that a girl believing she's a boy because she's more "masculine" than she "should" be and vice versa is all about sex role stereotyping which should be challenged and not supported via hormones and surgery.

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    • rayb12

      This is the most ironic post I've ever read.

      First you make an assertion as to the presumptuous nature of a trans mindset while simultaneously making your own presumptions as to how trans people feel.

      As someone who has experienced gender dysphoria it had nothing to do with viewing my behavior or thoughts as "female".
      There are so many effeminate men and masculine women who have no sense that they are trans, because they aren't. How could you even make this argument the two are related?

      Next you go on to say trans people are sex role stereotyping, and these stereotypes should be challenged. Do you know who perpetuates sex stereotypes the most? non-trans people.
      Do you know what is not a stereotype of women? That they were born with a penis.

      You are so oldschool, dude. I don't even buy into this social justice political stuff, but to me this is simply letting people be comfortable. It has nothing inherently political about it.

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      • Ellenna

        So you experienced "gender disphoria" and didn't believe you were a different gender to the body you were born in? Isn't that in fact one definition of gender disphoria?

        I guess you're right that non trans people perpetuate sex sterotypes more than trans people, given there are more non trans people than trans, but what's your point?

        Your question about stereotypes of women and a penis doesn't make any sense to me but I guess it must to you.

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        • rayb12

          Yes I believed I was a different gender. But this is not a conclusion I came to through weighing my behaviors against stereotypes. Just as a non trans person doesnt believe they are of their gender conditionally on exhibiting stereotypical behaviors.

          The point I should have made is that perpetuation of stereotypes is so widespread and gone unchecked, that to suddenly care about this in the face of a person wishing to perform identity affirming treatments is unfair. Your concern for eliminating stereotypes is better suited for non-trans people.

          I was not merely saying non-trans are more guilty because there are more of them. But that for example a trans woman coming out as trans adds diversity to women.
          This I'd what I was saying about being born with a penis. If you are saying gender stereotypes should be challenged why want a closeted trans woman masquerading as a man, when you could have a woman who was born with a penis.

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          • Ellenna

            So what was it about your feelings, desires, behaviour, interests or anything else which led you to believe you were not the same gender as your physical being?

            A trans woman only adds to the diversity of women (whatever that means?) if that person is accepted as a woman, which is not a universal response, far from it. Accepting trans people as trans doesn't necessarily mean they're accepted as the gender they believe themselves to be.

            I've read your last sentence several times and I still don't understand it.

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            • rayb12

              It is not an intellectual process. Just like it isn't for you.

              We can spend the day parsing this out about the amount trans people break or reinforce stereotypes and measure this against the effects of non-trans people, this is all that my last sentence was referring to anyways.

              But this is not central to my point because even if it were the case that trans people are doing damage in perpetuating stereotypes, this to me is not nearly a strong enough reason to advocate against them participating in the non-violent non-coercive behavior of identity affirming surgeries and hormone treatments

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  • Dot123

    Horseshit. No it's bloody well not fucking normal!

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  • I think it should be illegal for children younger then 10. Transitioning is a life-changing decision.

    The only reason I set the age so low is because of the time limit for natural hormones changing the body. Transitioning is more difficult if you start later.

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    • Ellenna

      Younger than 10? You really think a child of that age can foresee the longterm effects of transitioning? I don't believe it.

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  • Kevinevan

    Give the kid a butter knife and if he is serious he'll figure out a way to chop his junk off.

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