How do you deal with a friend like this?
How do you know when it´s time to let go of someone who was once Close to you?
Background; We´ve been best friends for at least Three years, friends for four. She´s 23 and I´m 26.
The first four years Went friction free and I let small things pass because it wasn´t important enough to create a fuzz about them.
But when me and my boyfriend, whom I´ve been together with for four years, was about to sign our contract for our first apartment and would move in together ... Everything changed.
She backed away that same week and either didn´t respond or responded rudely- Causing that week to be incredibly awful to me when it should have been an Amazing week.
After we had not spoken at all for 4-5 Days (Never happened Before) I wrote a long text about how sad and worried I was and if I had done something wrong even though I knew I hadn´t done anything wrong.
She responded, saying she was sad and depressed and jealous that I was moving in with someone and she feared I´d dump her.
I comforted her, saying I would not. But the next time she acted up like this I´d not be as nice (She knows that I have zero acceptance for friends who attacks me because they are sad)
But every since that week, it just never returned to the way it was.
It has just been small insignificant things but I do not wish to just take it and accept her rude behaviour when it drains me.
I want my old friend back, but she´s very depressed and has been for a while. I`ve so much going on that stresses me out and requires my full focus.
We do need to talk about this, really talk it through. But she doesn´t want to and prefers to try and act as if everything is normal while I know it isnt.