How do i prove i am not worthless?

My entire life I was told I was worthless. I was always the person who had to shoulder the responsibility and often taken advantage of at work. Often I can not get ahead since I am told I do not have enough training or the right title. I often get told without an education My opinion is worthless but I am in college now and I not sure what it's suppose to change. I don't feel like I am opening a third eye or gaining super powers and college success classes tell you generic things we already know. I could build a car, run a business but will be told I am just some idiot. What does one have to do to show they are qualified to do anything?

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  • You don't. You live for yourself and disregard other's opinions.

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  • is this from more a lacka standin up for yourself than lacka abilities or motivation?

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  • You ask a very good question. There are answers and help out there for you to be successful and prove your worth. But, you will not find it in the normal education system.

    For Starters: I believe in you and your potential... I suspect you are misplaced in the education world, and they don't know what to do with you... You could very well be the equivalent of the goose that lays the gold eggs. The normal education and job system does not believe that such creatures exist... and could not recognize them if they laid a gold egg in their lap (they would not believe it's real gold).

    The normal education system was intentionally designed to produce employees for employers. It intentionally squashes creativity, often squashes self worth, and any idea that you can do better on your own (you have to depend on the system of jobs and education).

    The fact is that you can likely be very successful both in jobs and by running your own company. 1st key is to never accept other's people negative comments about your self worth or what you can do in life (as long as its physically possible for you to do it: i.e. a paraplegic cannot run the Boston Marathon; but, can build and run a multi-million dollar a year very profitable company: Note that I recently watched a success video on just such a person after a terrible accident).

    Instead associate with people who believe in you and your potential - and urge you to move forward.

    A few rules: There are no shortcuts to real success, and it never goes on sale. You can do it - but it means that you will have to learn a whole new set of skills that are not taught in the conventional school system; and that will take work and time.

    A simple way to sum that up: If you start a business - don't expect any positive returns until you have mastered the basics of what it takes to build and run your business; and what is needed in knowledge and skills to run a successful business often has nothing to do with what you can technically do.

    In the same vein... don't expect to be considered worthwhile by others and be a success until you become competent in multiple areas of study about personal potentials and success.

    I suggest that you read the following books, and see if they provide useful information to you:

    - "The Magic of Thinking Big" by: David J. Schwartz.
    - "The Compound Effect" by Darren Hardy
    - "Cashflow Quadrant" by Robert Kiyosaki

    Please PM me if you find any of those interesting or of help. I'm willing to assist and guide you if you wish to rise to be the person you were meant to be.

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  • Look to Jesus Christ, He loves you! He seriously does! Bible verse: Matthew 10:31 "So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.". Truth

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    • I agree that the words of Jesus Christ can heal. But you need to apply them in the right way. Simply parroting them indiscriminately might harm more than it helps, in certain situations.

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  • Fuck their opinion, be who you want to be, not who others want you to be

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  • You are not worthless. You have worth, you deserve to be told you have worth and treated like you have worth.

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  • Be honest with yourself dont let others sway your opinion on yourself. Look at the things youre good at. Are you good with people? Responsible? Do you go to work everyday? Have a plan? Blah blah blah

    You sound too hard on yourself really

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  • You don't need to prove your fundamental worth to them to 'earn' basic respect. Respect them, and make it clear that you expect the same. Your value doesn't depend on them, but if you leave it to them to put a value on you, they will tread you into the ground. However, they will value you if you value them and yourself.

    Find a way of believing in your worth yourself. Un-learn the messages that were drummed into you when you were too vulnerable to question them, and develop a set of values and things you know to be true of your rights and place in the world that don't change with every challenge the world poses to them. As I have said above, I am convinced that Jesus Christ was speaking about me too when he spoke about his spiritual family and about all those who would believe in him after he was gone, and I hold the words that he says about us to be solid. That is my foundation that nobody can take away from me.

    The point is that you KNOW you can do stuff, but you need to believe it and act like it, and resist changing your view of your fundamental identity when other people first scrutinise you (because that moment always comes, and people's words often reveal more about them than they do about you - but to recognise that, you need to know what YOU are, as removed from what THEY think). It will take a long time and you will almost certainly need help, at least to develop strategies to change your thinking. If you can get counselling/therapy, get it.

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  • You can't.

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  • Matterial wise remember at the end of your life your body is worth something if you donate it. Generally about 3k-10k dollars. Unless you are a medical marvel ie having rarer traits. Heck if you were a red head (rarest hair type) and has a half dozen seperate medical conditions your body is worth a pretty penny.

    Technically we all dont have intrinsic value in our lives. It's what you do is what's valuable. That doing could be as simple as being you. Whether it's just how you portray yourself or if you are important person in someone else's life.

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    • That is great but how do I prove I am not worthless to other people when clearly. No matter what I do it doesn't seem to count. Something has to count.

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      • Well find other people with better standards or improve your own.

        Those are your only options. The third is just hope that things will get better with time.

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        • Hope is not a success stategy

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          • That's why it wasnt the first or second strategy.

            Fight, flight, wait.

            Deer in the headlights tend to go for the wait strategy and it mostly never ends well for the deer. For the mouse in the field and an overhead bird is watching, could work out.

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