How do i get rid of my mentally i'll family?

How do I get rid of my mentally I'll family? My father, mother and brother are all very I'll. My dad seemed to have changed after he got his new wife and seems to want to better himself. He was an abusive Narcissist before. My mom seemed judgemental but did seem to love us until she got a new husband. Which it seems she changes personality based on whoever she is dating. Her husband was a ex convict and treated everyone else like crap and wanted to be worshipped like a king. My mother is bipolar as after leaving my dad became slowly more abusive and essentially used fear and violence to control and trap her children. My brother has depression, is an alcoholic and has GID so feels like they were assigned the wrong gender at birth. I have left my family and it's been 3 years. Now my mother won't stop calling saying I need to quit my job, come home to take care of my sibling two years younger than me, and how she has no idea how anything she did was damaging or wrong. I'm sick of explaining to her dellusional mind that I need to be left alone already. What do I do to get her to go away? I am not a trained therapist but I been playing one my entire life. I mean if I was paid to counselor these people it be one thing but at this piont I'm just giving up my life for them. My mother is also very calloused towards anything she doesn't seem worth caring about. So she's fine with animal abuse which I don't agree with because I love animals.

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  • Sounds like you are on the right track by having left your family 3 years ago so don't give in now. Cutting off contact and enjoying the peace that you deserve is the only thing left to do. Don't doubt your decision and don't let anyone guilt trip you into doing anything you don't want to do. Just because they are family doesn't mean they can get away with crap that other people can't. Delete them from your life. I'm sure you know what needs to be done to stop hearing from toxic family members so get er done.

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  • I did it. I got in Ford F-150 and fucking left. I have zero family now. Well I consider one lonely lesbian from this website family and I would protect her till death but that is another story.

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  • Seek therapy to deal with it all and cut off all contact.
    If they're abusive you have no reason to stay in contact even if they're family. If they are diagnosed with the things you wrote then they should be getting active treatment and taking meds to be more stable mentally and if they aren't doing that then you have even less of a reason to put up with them if they won't try to be better.

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  • Well, you can just move away and cut contact with them if you're that desperate to get away. If you aren't in a situation where you can do that, start to save up so that you can.

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  • DEAR OP:

    I'm having an argument with DIO, I say your typographical error of typing "I'll" instead of "ill" is autocorrect when you were typing it in. Is that the case or is DIO right that you just made that mistake yourself?

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  • kill them then post it on liveleak

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  • Cut off all contact and focus on ur life. Also tell them to take antipsychotics.

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  • Fire

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  • It's spelled "ill".

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  • "Mentally I'll"

    Do you even fucking try???

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