How do i approach this situation with my girlfriend

The past 2 nights she’s spent the night at my mother’s house we noticed missing Xanax.

While I don’t doubt she truly likes me, I don’t want to be dating someone who thinks it’s OK to steal from my mother. And she’s basically calling us a fool.

What should do next? I know I need to talk to her but how I do bring it up before Valentines? It will be our 6 months together as well.

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  • Leave her

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  • Dump that thieving skank! Don't think twice about her feelings. The feelings of thieves don't really matter.

    Also you could, if you wanted to fuck with her sorry ass, get a little nanny cam, and leave some xanax where she can get caught on video stealing it. Then just dump her without explanation, and when she asks why send her the link to the video on YouTube. 🤓

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    • She’s still playing the victim. Her words were I should be crawling back to her.

      Who’s the one who stole and tried lying about it? Bitch’s number is blocked.

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    • Ohhh sneaky and smart I like it.

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    • Well, I hate writing on months old posts but I heard from her last week. I decided it’s best not to have contact with her after breaking up so she could move on and make better choices, and too be honest, I have too much negativity to deal with that in my life,

      She texted apologizing but also saying she has “mixed feelings” about what she did; she was going through a difficult period, and I that I should have looked past the offense.

      Bitch is the always the victim! Yuck!

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      • Yeah, forget that bitch! I have no heart for thieves! Junkies always try to manipulate other people into believing that they're victims. What she needs to do is to leave you alone, sober up, and start attending twelve step meetings. She might eventually make amends to you, because she does owe you an amends, but otherwise she needs a leave you, and your family alone.

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        • Thank you!

          The nerve of her to say “she was going through things.” At that my family was dealing with a grandmother who has Alzheimer’s and wandering out of the house during the night (she’s in a nursing home) and my sister had miscarriage. I drive 5 hours with her to see her grandmother!

          Oh well, time for the both of us to move on. No point in being bitter. Bitch be blocked.

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          • Gotta get ya a can of that old bitch be gone spray. 🙂

            The way I see it is that everyone goes through things all the time, but it's certainly not ever an excuse to steal narcotics that are prescribed for another person, and lie about it!

            We are all victims of one misfortune, or another, but by virtue of the fact that we're still here, and breathing we all all survivors. I think your ex girlfriend needs to detach from her pride, and accept the fact that she has proven herself untrustworthy, and made herself redundant to you, and your family. There is nothing that she needs more now than sobriety, and recovery! She needs to accept that it's over with you, and that she has only herself to blame. She needs to accept that she has behaved selfishly, and if she wants her life to improve she must change the way she lives.

            She also needs to go get herself a copy of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.

            I guess that's enough ranting from me. I certainly wish you the best, and hope that you don't run into anymore crazy bitches like your ex again.

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    • I call her and told her I truly hope it’s a misunderstanding but after the past 2 times you spent the night my mother has noticed missing Xanax pills.

      She was silent the most part and said it seemed like I was breaking up with her. I told her I truly don’t want to, but I need honesty. The conversation ended rather emotionally.

      I texted her this morning if she wants to talk more and I haven’t heard back.

      I truly want to believe this is just a horrible misunderstanding, but I don’t know how Xanax go missing after somebody spends the night.

      She hasn’t been able to get a job either. She got fired from a job she worked for a week after the manager told her she was too take off too for too many sick days, but they made her take those sick days.

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      • Yeah, she's abusing pills. Since she's stealing Xanax from your mother, Xanax abuse can lead to a person appearing sick, which makes sense that she can't keep a job or sent home due to illness.

        I'm sorry man, you're dating a pill addict. Until she can admit to herself that she has a problem, she wont stop depending on the drugs. You can love her as much as you want, but pulling someone out of drug use with habits so bad that they would steal from others will be a huge battle that no one should be involved in. You got to let her go as a partner, but you can keep her as a friend to check-in if you want.

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        • I still don’t want it to be true, but there’s too many fishy things going on.

          I haven’t heard from her today and I don’t know if I will again.

          Not easy, but she’s broken my trust.

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      • She seems like a very flaky person at best, and still a thief at worst. Obviously, she knows what she did. Did she at least admit to it, and apologize? Well, regardless an apology is not enough to merit acceptance, or reconciliation, forgiveness perhaps, but certainly not reconciliation. I hate to say this, but I certainly wouldn't believe anything she has to say about her work situation, or much of anything else, because what we do know for a fact is that she's a thief. She rather sounds like she's mentally ill, and probably a substance abuser. If not a substance abuser, she's still a thief, and a thief is someone who cannot be trusted.

        I'm sorry for all of my redundancy, but what you need, and what every decent person needs is someone who is honest, and we all know liars, cheaters and thieves are the opposite of honesty.

        I personally think you did the right thing there, my man, and although it may hurt you, you and your mother are certainly better off without her! You deserve a decent, honest person who doesn't steal from you, or your family, or friends. I wish you all the best!

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        • She didn’t admit origanally; she called days later to say she did.

          She took 30 in 6 days...

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  • suck if she wasn't stealing it. xanax fucks wid ya memory so ya mum could have forgot.

    But yea, if she is stealing get rid of her.

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  • Not only she's stealing from your mother, but she's hooked on pills. You got to leave her or you'll end up supporting an addict you can't bring around your family.

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    • Well I know it’s old and you probably don’t care.

      So we went out to eat one last time. She rarely spoke or made eye contact. She was even writing on paper at one point. All I could see was that she dosen’t even know why she came. (How mature, writing on paper!)

      It’s officially. I wanted to give her one more chance, but I’m not being with childish, remorseless thief.

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      • No worries, I care.

        It's nice you gave her one more shot, because it's good to be sure. Yeah, it's clear she knew what she did, and isn't trying to make things better; you don't need that in your life.

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        • Update: she made a FB saying “I wish I could back in time and make better decision. Of course I did it to myself.”

          I was irked she was making herself look like a victim (at my stance.)

          She posted a photo of herself, and her commented that she looks beautiful, but she never liked any of our photos together. I’m not going to lie that kind of hurt. But oh well, I now feel relieved to be done with her. Choke on your Xanax (not really though :)

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  • Dump her.

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    • It’s hard, but I think it’s the best situation. This is the second and I don’t want her thinking it’s OK to steal from my family.

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      • Exactly! Also drug addicts can be a real burden. I have cousins who are addicts and they ruin the mental state of everyone that tries to help them. Don't let yourself become an empty husk.

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