He punched her in the mouth, is this justifiable?

Nope, you can't just go swinging your fists around if you hear something you don't like.

If everyone reacted like that 95% of the population would be doing time.

She was being a bitch and he punched her, he should have learned to control himself but it’s no different than if he punched a man.

After reading this thread I have lost a small amount of faith in humanity. Your friend had sexually assaulted you. Then started calling you various things with bigoted mindset. Your boyfriend wanted to leave. She threw a drink in his face.

The sexual assault and subsequent harassment is fine because it was a women doing it. And women are only victims. But a man protecting himself and his girlfriend that's totally wrong put him in jail. Because men are only abusers.

Yup, completely justified. Bitch threw a drink at him, and he retaliated.

The only issue here is double standards are strong in our society. Women are viewed as weak, therefore many women see themselves as weak and entitled. If men were to get beaten up by their girlfriends, they're ridiculed by their peers for being pussy enough to allow that. It's fucking stupid. Women are not weak. Just like men, we may get ourselves in situations where we genuinely need help, but this situation isn't one of them. She attacked first, and he fought back.

Sadly, our justice system is flawed, so I wish your boyfriend luck.

Red flags of fucked up shit all over the damn place here, girl! He shouldn't have hit her, sure, but she was acting crazy, and treating you like shit. Regardless both your boyfriend and your so called best friend have red flags about themselves and their own bad behavior.

If she was my best friend I would personally dump her for treating me that way! I had a guy best friend years ago that I dumped, because he decided to tell me what he wanted to do to me sexually. He said he was only joking, but as far as I was concerned the trust was shattered so there was nothing left of the friendship. I personally don't see what the point is of coming out to your best girlfriend that your bisexual when you've already got a boyfriend unless you're trying to hook up with her which is nasty, because that's cheating. I guess it's normal to feel like you want to share everything with a best friend, but this girl doesn't sound like a very nice person at all. What kinda shitty person makes a pass at you in front of your boyfriend, and then insults you when you rebuff her advances? That bitch is not your friend!

Dump your awful friend, she doesn't have your best interest at heart! Also keep your eyes open about that violent boyfriend of yours. They both sound awful.

She got what she deserved. She never should've thrown the drink at him.

My mother always said you shouldn't go letting your mouth write the check your ass can't cash. She was WAAAAY out of line in her questioning and bringing up personal shit to explain it.

So maybe your boyfriend reacted violently, but this was after holding back for some time, and to be berated and accusing him of having HIV (implying in a derogatory way he's gay) was the line. She let her mouth write the check and her ass bounced.

I'm not going to say it was 100% correct, but in the heat of the moment our judgement is not shall we say, the best. I can't offer any legal advice, but I wish you good luck.

if a man struck another man for grabbing his wife's genitals a jury would call it sexual assault , and the husband would walk on the assault charge . In this case we have two gay men as the pair bond and a woman as the sexual predator. Not being an attorney i can't say who would win , but this looks like a test case that should be bumped to a federal appeals court for the violation of human rights (to be a gay man) and receive equal justice.

I’m glad she got her teeth knocked out of her. Why are you so entitled to treat other like shit? Til you mess with the wrong person. If she’s going to press charges. You should too! You said she was groping you. Your bf was defending you.

Lol aren't we a funny species!

Everyone missed the main point how you stayed with her after to make sure she was okay.
But you got some people still hating on you because of your sexuality.
Or calling you an idiot for even knowing these people.
But you did nothing wrong! Lmao

You are just too nice for this dark world. ^_^

And I say file a report against her first for the sexual assualt before she turns it around on you.
Sounds like she's going to do that after I read your new replies.

And your boyfriend hmm not sure what to say about his legal situation.
But I don't think it's fully his fault, since she did chuck her drink at him but it escalated.
Leave that in the hands of the court I guess, if it does reach court.

If we're talking about a drink in terms of a bottle that could was meant to cause physical harm, then all bets are off. She started it. If we're talking about a solo cup, it's a totally different situation, then he assaulted her.

But let's back up a bit here and recall that she sexually assaulted you a few minutes ago, and that's even more screwed up. You have a right to press charges way more than she does.

Grab them by the pussy. she is guilty of sexual assault. women think they can get buy with this shit and she got floored. LOL tuff shit . she deserved what she got.

Sure, he was angry and what she was saying was completely out of line.
But that's never a reason to commit an act of physical violence. He was completely in the wrong...but you should ditch her as a friend, especially if that's how she rescted to you coming out.
Chat with your boyfriend and ask what got him so riled up.

Shit, I clicked the wrong choice. Deduct one from the "Best friend" tally.

So you were all under the influence of whatever and she was talking shit and acting like an ass. That's no excuse for your boyfriend socking her in the face.

He sounds like someone with anger-control issues who isn't very emotionally mature. You'd be wise to think about whether you really want to be with someone like that. What happens if you ever say something that pisses him off?

She sounds like the sort who mouths off about involving the cops when she's actually too chicken-shit to actually do it, but she'd be within her rights to do so, and it might be a wake-up call for your boyfriend if she does.

If you didn't assault her or assist your boyfriend in his assault, it's hard to see what you could be charged with.

Whatever happens, you'd be wise to find another best friend.

She deserved it, but I'm sure he's the only one that's gonna be blamed. Woman don't know when to shut up cause they think men won't hit them and when they finally snap they say it's abuse.

It's the boyfriends fault...i think it's pretty obvious why.

Stop drinking and hanging around with drug using trash and you won't have to worry about things like this. Really. Once this all plays out, and whether you get charges pressed against you or not, you will look back when you are older and realise that your problems arise because of the class of people you associated yourself with.

I know that my statements do not correlate with what you were asking, but I felt that your post here is screaming "I need to grow the fuck up and I need sone guidance".

I'm not trying to condascend here, and please don't take it that way. I'm just telling you this because I wish someone had told me these things when I was younger. I hope one day you learn to associate yourself with better people.

My answer is: get a life and stop degenerating around with psychopaths and lunatics.

She was right in trying to tell you what you probably need to hear, as a good friend should. The groping you was a bit much, though. Your...um boyfriend...should know to keep his cool. Pushing someone away if they are in your face is one thing but a full blown pow to the kisser is another- especially someone so much smaller.

That said, everyone was tense and it sounds like everyone had some drinks and maybe some marijuana? I don't think your boyfriend should be in jail but should be held accountable for medical or dental bills.

I couldn't read that, "war and peace" length paragraph. Men should never hit women (and vice versa) just run away.

You should have punched her in the mouth and not let your boyfriend fight your battles for you.

The only part of this that could make what the boyf did justifiable is the bestf's attempt to grope OP. Both were at fault.

However, the boyf was in the most wrong, because he initiated the physical violence.

They sound like the kind of trash you see on Jerry Springer. Not worthy of any more comment than that.

Your friend isn't a friend and your boyfriend should be arrested. I would suggest you remove yourself from both of them. But if you want an answer a second grader would give, your friend started it, and your boyfriend took it way too far.

Your fag boyfriend needs to spend some time in the "cooler". The smoke in her face was stupid and was a physical assault. Post sounds like bullshit anyway.