He has loads of friends

My boyfriend seems to have loads of friends, and it bothers me as I don’t have many at all... he’s the only person I hang around with now and I’m worried that if he thinks I don’t have many friends he won’t like me anymore, we haven’t been together long. I am always longing for friends but shyness and social anxiety makes this hard for me, I’ve never had a lot, not threw school or anything... it makes me wonder how I’m going to have any bridesmaids when I get married... yes this is true I do think like this.

My job is my own business so no way of making friends that way. I also need tips how to be friend his friends... because I’ve no idea how... because I’ve never done it.

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  • OofMasterBoi

    I’m gonna go off on the assumption that you’re an introvert and he’s an extrovert. Btw I’m 18 and have no expertise in this subject, but would like to try.

    He probably thinks you’re bored or have nothing to do while he’s not around, and might pity you. If you’re both above the age of 25ish you guys should be mature enough to not care about each others status in society (like “Oh, she’s a loser because she has no friends).

    So, to fix this problem of not having friends, is to be friendly, funny, and have a passion for something. Having hobbies make people look fuller than they actually are and gives the illusion of depth in character (I say illusion because everyone has something of a hobby or favored activity, so it’s not somehing of importance). Since you’re probably an introvert you might like video games, even though you’re a girl (I think). You can play with people online and practice having conversations with them. If you have an Oculus, you can practice talking to people in VR (virtual reality) where it’s easy for people to conversate. If you don’t like games, than I don’t know why you’re SO DAMN socially awkward, just kidding.

    Humor will take you a long way in making friends. You don’t have to be witty, just have a sense of humor and laugh. Personally, I don’t think I’m funny (I’m an introvert and kind of boring) but my friends think I’m hilarious. Dark humor is what I really like and I think it’s funny to joke about racism, terrorism, politics, gender stuff, everything is funny to me because I understand what a joke is.

    To make his friends your friends, use the humor. Guys like funny girls or girls with a sense of humor (not like like, just friendly). Understand what their sense of comedy is and adapt to it. I understand with certain people what is okay to joke about, and sometimes push the boundaries to see how they would react.

    TL:DR Be funny/ sense of humor is #1. I typed a lot because I used to be like you (guy tho) and feel for you. I’m still introverted, but I’m not shy. I just won’t talk unless I have something to say.

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  • ijustwannaknowifimodd

    Go find some activities to do, although it'll be difficult with social anxiety. Good luck!

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  • RoseIsabella

    I guess you could go take a class for adult enrichment. Go to Meetup.com, and look for a meetup that has to do with some activity in which you have a keen interest. If you go to church, try to find out about the various different ministries that your parish offers, I used to sing in the church choir. Look for some classes in arts, and crafts. Maybe get a copy of your local Sunday newspaper, and look for the section that lists all the different volunteer opportunities in your area, and seek to volunteer in something you really like, or in which you strongly believe. If you're a Roman Catholic like me you could try to find out if your parish has a Rosary makers club. You can try to volunteer with a local animal shelter. Volunteer for your political party that you support. Look for a gourmet cooking class to take. Take a foriegn language class? Maybe you could volunteer at your local library?

    There's so much stuff out there that it's hard for me to list it all, but I can't concentrate, because my sinuses are bugging me. Another thing too is that I should probably be taking my own advice since I live in a new town myself. I still miss Houston of course, and Las Vegas as well. Las Vegas had a cute little Chinatown, Houston has two.

    I hope my suggestions helped.

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