He’s going to jail…

I’ve recently met a guy at the end of May this year. At first we’d text here and there or tbh when I was in the mood. We eventually met up and hit it off. Fast forward to today and he calls me and said he had something to tell me. He said he was going to jail, he explained why and the situation (nothing crazy). I honestly do not know how to feel. We’ve only been talking for about 2 months continuously everyday. It’s mostly physical right now, but I do see it developing into more. Should I keep in touch while he’s away? Should I just stop talking to him? HELP!

Is It Normal?
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 14 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • I did time. I didn’t lose anyone. But if you’re the only one he contacts then he might fixate on you.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • Yup

      And some dudes on the inside have like 4 relationships going on at the same time. There’s absolutely nothing else to do so everyone can turn into Shakespeare when it comes to writing love letters.

      It feels bad explaining to girls that have their fellas locked away that when he says they’re the “most important thing” in his life - it’s in comparison to him having a pack of soup and maybe a weekend candy bar.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Well that depends on what he did???
    Either way I personally wouldnt associate with lowlife criminals regardless, but that's up to each person. There are those who love criminals and date inmates after all.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I would move on. People usually dont break character for 3 months and he did it in 2. I would walk away and start fresh.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • The way I see it is he’s currently hit rock bottom, whether he’s worth having in your life depends on whether he’s intent on rebuilding his life or wallowing in the mess he’s made. What’s his plan once he gets out of prison?

    One thing I will ask is are you sure the “nothing crazy” reason he’s going to prison is the real reason? Perhaps it is, but as you have only known him for 2 months it’s worth considering that he may not have told you the full story.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I mean, it's not exactly "normal", but I think you should probably stay in touch if you like him. I know a few people with criminal records, and they can be quite nice.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Only you can decide if you still want to have contact with him

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • He best not be dropping that soap.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Why is he going to prison?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • I did almost 3 years in prison. Depending on his charges, he will be “in the system” for practically lifelong.
    His opportunities have been severely cut, nobody behind bars will “act normal” when talking to people on the outside, it’s almost always theatrics and telling you whatever you want to hear cause nobody wants to lose a phone call.

    2 months is very very short. Unless he’s an exceptional person, don’t waste your time

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • How long he gotta do?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • He’s serving 9 months

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • Jeez idk thats a long time. It doesnt sound like he has his life together at all. You'd be better off going for a dude that has a good income and doesnt have legal problems.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
      • The fact that he did not tell you anything up front... is not a good sign.

        I agree with SkullsN Roses that you need to validate why he is going to prison. If he lied on that - then you have another piece of information.

        9 months means that it is not a trivial crime, or that he has a record. Do a criminal background check even if you have to pay someone to do it if you are thinking of potentially staying together (some States allow you to do a search for Free - Wisconsin does).

        Also, are you sure that you know his real name?

        Assuming the above checks out positively, then you have to find out what his plans are after he gets out (and what he will do while inside to improve himself - there are classes and activities for that). If he appears totally honest, is willing to accept responsibility for his crime (does not blame others for why he was arrested or prosecuted), and has a real plan to improve his life after prison. Then perhaps...

        Comment Hidden ( show )
Add A Comment