Have you ever been indifferent or happy over a family death?

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I've never been either of those myself, but I think I'll be happy when my dad's gone, at least after I get over the initial shock, if I don't immediately jump for joy.

He's intellectually unfit for the job of parenting and he's not worth what little money he makes. I evaluate how I feel about my dad every day, and over 6 months it has unmistakably changed from "I can't bring myself to love him" to "I wish he was dead." The more time I spend with him, the more sure I become of the latter opinion.

If you're going to provide anecdotes, be sure to state whether the death was in your immediate or more distant family.

I've never been either of those over a family death. 21
I've been indifferent. 100
I've been happy. Good bloody riddance! 14
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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    I've only ever been indifferent when someone in the family has died. I haven't had someone all that close to me die though.

    To be honest, the fact that it hasn't bothered me bothers me more than the deaths themselves.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Indifferent, yes.

    My father's family made a point to make me feel excluded from the rest of the family hence I never got to know my grandfather very well. When he died I felt nothing.

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    • Avant-Garde
      11 years ago

      I can relate. When my father's father died a few years ago, I was indifferent. I didn't know what to feel because I wasn't allowed to know my father's side of the family.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    11 years ago

    You hate your dad because he's not that smart? Thats not normal at all. Please tell me that's not the only reason! Give me back my faith in humanity!

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I've been indifferent before. I didn't feel sad when my grandad died; I was indifferent. Slightly numbed, maybe, but not sad. There's no reason for that. I just wasn't.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I had to come back and edit my post, too many specific identifiers. You can still read it in your inbox, OP.

    Yes, I have 2 immediate relatives whose deaths wouldn't bother me too much. One lived such a terrible life and hurt so many people and is now living in the lap of luxury with money to spend and I think that person's death with likely restore a tad bit of balance to that karma thing, if there is one.

    The other person, I am looking forward to their funeral and seeing who shows up and what people say about them. I am dying to see if anyone tries to make them sound like some golden hearted creature of God. I'd be delighted if they did, what a comedy act.

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    • Shackleford96
      11 years ago

      That sounds rather harsh, Neuro. knowing you and some of the things you been through though I would say that they,whoever they are, probably have it coming to them.

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  • bristexai
    11 years ago

    You seem like a terrible person.

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    • Shackleford96
      11 years ago | pl

      You don't know them though maybe their dad is the one that's the terrible person.

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      • bristexai
        11 years ago

        OP said he was "intellectually unfit". He probably just doesn't speak the way OP thinks he should, doesn't know where Nigeria is, can't do algebra, etc. If this wasn't the Internet, I wouldn't assume that, but too many people on the Internet are judgemental eugenicist assholes who don't realize that there are different kinds of intelligence.

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        • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja
          11 years ago

          I think it's fair to say that the OP knows their dad better than you do. If they say their dad is intellectually unfit, I'll take them at their word because I don't know their dad and they do.

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  • Matt2222
    11 years ago

    The people in my family that have died I haven't really known. But once my brother-in-law dies I will be so overjoyed that nothing would ever compare to the joy.

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  • pillowpets56
    11 years ago

    Wtf man! That's just plain rude. Your dad grew up with you .just think about it and hopefully you understand.

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  • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja
    11 years ago

    I didn't really feel sad when my grandfather died. I wasn't that close to him. It wasn't like we were specifically NOT close, I just...didn't really feel much.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I think the only time I showed sadness was when my father died when I was about 2 or 3. Apparently, it caused me to become extremely depressed so my family sent me to a psychiatrist. When my grandfather died recently, I was indifferent. I view death as being a positive thing and consequently, I came of as being insensitive and I was accused of not loving him. I had a promonition in the form of a dream about his death a few months before he died so, I was already prepared without really knowing it.

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  • disfunkshinal
    11 years ago

    I'm not sad when family I'm not close to dies. If I know them well, I'm devastated.

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    Only experienced two deaths in the family. One was my Grandfather, the other was my father. I was upset about both.

    I expect I would feel indifferent about some family members dying - there are several I'm not close to. However, there's nobody I'd be particularly happy to lose.

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  • mitochondria
    11 years ago

    I've been indifferent. I get the feeling I might be happy about a relative that may die soon, and that's so scary to me.
    She's got dementia and tries to feed me stuff I'm allergic to, and touches my thighs and butt (and I don't like being touched by other people IN GENERAL) and watches me and sometimes people who stay over sleep. She lives here. She used to be wonderful, when I was a kid, but I don't know that she's that person anymore.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    No, I have never been happy over a family member's death. I have, however, felt some form of "indifference." I am not proud of those feelings though.

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    nooo

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