Hanging with sister on valentine’s day instead of boyfriend

bf of 3 years is upset and wanting to breakup with me bc i want to spend valentine’s day with my sister. is it fucked up on my part to want to spend it with her? i told him and he like flipped out... idk what to do. iin?

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  • Are you in a lesbian relationship with your sister? If not then yes, it's fucked up.
    If you don't see what you're doing wrong then maybe you're not ready for a relationship with another living being.

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    • Ummm...maybe she just likes hanging out with her sister? People get gifts for their parents and hang out with them, why not siblings? She probably spends more time with her boyfriend anyway. In either case, it’s her fucking choice who she wants to be with and it’s shitty that he would get upset about that.

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      • The problem is not hanging with your sister, it's hanging with your sister when it's Valentine's day, a day were regular people are expected to spend time with the person they are in relationship with.
        How do you know that she probably spends more time with her boyfriend?? You have absolutely no clue and are just making totally inacurrate assumptions based on nothing.
        I totally understand the boyfriend for getting upset. Even if I wouldn't leave my girlfriend for this, I would be upset too. And I hope that my girlfriend would be upset too if I did that to her and if she really loved me.

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        • How do you know she doesn’t spend more tome with her boyfriend? With the information she gave us all we can do is make fucking assumptioms

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          • Nope. You can just not assume anything and use the facts she's providing. But it seems the guy is abusive so you may be right. But yet again we can't know for sure.

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  • Yeah, why would you want to spend Saint Valentine's Day with your sister instead of your boyfriend? I think this gesture is quite inconsiderate, unloving towards your boyfriend. I don't blame him one bit for being upset, and wanting to breakup with you!

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    • he is the 29 year old ex heroin addict btw

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      • Aw Hell, why didn't you say so? Forget that douchebag, piece of shit, loser. Just dump him like I've been telling you to do for probably the last two years. Yeah, that guy doesn't count a real boyfriend, or even much of a human, and he certainly isn't worthy of love or affection from anyone.

        Yeah, you should forget about that guy entirely, and spend the entire day, and night with your sister, or really just about anyone, but him. He's garbage, take him to the dump where he belongs.

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        • You've been telling someone else to leave there guy for 2 years now 2? Man there really is alot of us in trouble on here

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        • What? I agree he’s kind of a loser but I don’t know if he’s inhuman or unworthy of love. Like that’s fucked up. Addiction is a disease, thankfully he got over it. It doesn’t make him any less human. You get into drugs for human reasons, pain usually. You can’t take it anymore and so you start on drugs as opposed to blowing your brains out. I hate it when people act liek addicts can’t love or they don’t have feelings. Like seriously? You’re the one who can’t love.

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          • I can love plenty, but if someone is abusing drugs, or alcohol, and is unwilling to sober up, or even if that person has sobered up, and starts treating me badly I'm going to leave. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to stay with someone who doesn't treat one well!

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  • Could you possibly compromise? Spend the day with your sister, and the evening with your boyfriend. Seems like that should solve the problem.

    If not, I’m on your side. Spend the time with your sister and dump the boyfriend.

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    • why are you on my side?

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      • I think women should make their own decisions without feeling pressured! I’m making a similar choice, spending the day with my two roommates (and yes we DO have sex with each other), and the evening (and night) with my boyfriend.

        Again, it should be your choice! Good luck on your decision!

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        • Just out of curiosity, does your boyfriend know you're fucking other people?

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        • I think anyone should make their own decisions without feeling pressured. Why do you have to fucking gender everything.

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          • Well dumbass, I think EVERYONE SHOULD make their own decisions. Did you READ the post, or is it above your comprehension level? She specifically said her boyfriend was putting pressure on her. If it was the other way around I’d say the same thing. And....because there are so many assholes like you that are just looking for someone to bully. FO

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  • I appreciate you taking the the time out to tell your story. I hate cheaters, and everyone on this website who knows me knows that I freaking hate cheating, and cheaters, but you shouldn't have spat in her face. Spitting in someone's face is a truly vile thing to do. To tell you the truth ya'll both sound like jackasses from your story. I just happen to be a firm believer in leaving a relationship when someone treats me badly.

    I'm not telling this chick to kill anyone, I'm just telling her to wise up, and leave her abusive, scumbag boyfriend. I don't believe that any harm can come to this dirtbag she's with if she leaves him, and if it does... so what?

    I don't have the time, or patience to list all the ways this dude has been a shithead to this girl, but nothing, but good can come from her leaving someone with whom she in a toxic relationship.

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  • Yeah, but only one of the two people has come here, and posted so...

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  • I wish I had someone this Valentines but yet again I'm alone crying myself to sleep.

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  • It's normal for him to be pissed.Valentines is a day for lovers

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  • There appears to be a lot of context to this scenario. Valentines day is Friday, a pretty normal date night. Most people would be upset if their significant other didn't want to spend the day designed for couples together. Now if your sister just went through a bad breakup, this may be excused. But without alll the details, it is weird to spend lovers day with your sister. Would you ditch your mom on mother's day for your boyfriend?

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  • How did he flip out? Maybe he had arranged special plans, or maybe he is a whiny girly boy pouting and crying. More info needed.

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    • Girly boy? Okay fuck off

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    • just like getting mad and he called me psycho and “what’s wrong with you” . he had plans but they were barely discussed

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      • In all it seems a silly thing to break up with someone over so if he is suggesting that, he has other issues. I wouldn't allow someone to call me a psycho over something so trivial.

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  • Why can't you spend another day with your sister? Valentines Day is a couples day. I think he's right to feel hurt tbh.

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  • Your boyfriend isn't real as a heroin addict. Where do you think this is going?

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  • It doesn't seem he's boyfriend material, if he's so shallow that because of one day you won't spend with him he'll dump you, he can't be very caring. Why would you want to be controlled by him? It's a sign that he'll keep on telling you what you should do!

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    • Why would you not spend valentine day with your lover in the first place?? She's the one being not very caring.

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