Friend calls me the n word

I'm black and one of my friends(who is white) likes to call me a nigg*r. At first he only did it like once a week, and I figured he was just joking so I awkwardly laughed it off. But now he's doing it multiple times a day and it's really starting to piss me off. Is this normal behavior? Are all white people like this?

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  • Smack that cracker upside the head.

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    • If it's a joke then it's a joke.

      I would pay more attention to HOW he is actually saying it.

      Dont just assume it's racism. If he sounds like he's trying to offend you then yea he could maybe be racist, but if he's just obviously messing around, then you shouldnt take it so personally.

      Why would a racist white person want to be friend's with a black person in the first place? I think you just might be taking him too seriously

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  • I thought you were going to tell us he called you a nerd.

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  • What a shitty friend

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  • He's not a Real friend if he calls you the N word. Talk to him and let him know that it is insulting you, if he doesn't stop then it's best just to not be friends with him at all. He's winding you up by acting Racist, it's not cool and no friend should ever do that.

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  • Racism, white, black, or not; that really doesn't matter in this situation. What your friend did was test your personal boundaries, and what you failed to do was say something sooner or ask questions when first mentioned. Laughing at the word the first few times and dismissing it the next (even when you were clearly uncomfortable) gave him the OK to use it more flagrantly. Why? Because some people are fucked up like that or just socially awkward/inappropriate.

    What you need to do is tell him that he's using that word too much, and ask him to stop or at least chill.

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  • No, it's not normal behavior, though not every white person acts this way. In fact, I think it's safe to say the majority don't.

    Ask him how he would feel if you'd call him a cracker everyday, or if he belongs to some negative white stereotype. Would he like it? Probably not.

    I don't think you should be friends with this person, but for now, take it as a lesson to put rude people in their place.

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  • Yeah, we're all like this. We yearn for the good old days of slavery when that word belonged to us.

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  • (I'm white)

    No it's not normal. I don't understand this mass push to "reclaim" that word. To me it's not a cute fun word that sounds nice to say, it's a word with a really charged dark history behind it that was yelled at people as they were being enslaved and lynched.

    If black people want to use it among themselves I guess that's their prerogative. Still, even when I hear black people using it never sounds positive. It's usually in the context of "yeah lets fight them n***as!". When non-black people want to use it though... why? That's always my question...

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  • Sounds like someone with very poor social skills.

    Tell him it makes you uncomfortable. If he tries to laugh it off or otherwise attempts to invalidate your feelings, accept that he's not a friend.

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  • Is your friend's name Eminem?

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  • Yes all white people are like this. Don't you notice that every other white person also calls you this multiple times a day?

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  • Yes it's normal, but it's not right. Talk to him and tell him you don't like it, that it's offensive. That word has a lot of bad history behind it, and he shouldn't be calling you that, white or not

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  • Talk to your friend about it. He probably does it because he thinks you are comfortable with it. The truth is it shouldn't happen but with the generation today it has become a connotation.

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  • what N word? alot of words start with N. help me out here

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  • what N word? alot of words start with N. help me out here

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  • I figure if I'm a "Whitey" or a "Gray Dude" or a "Honky" or a "Cracker" to them then they're a "Nigger" to me.

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  • call him something insulting to him, until he says something. then say something about him calling you that.

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  • Tell that cracker that he glows in the dark, and then never talk to him again.

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  • That's what yo mom said when I was railing her in the ass. Animal noises

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    • And then I came all over her face and she licked it all up. This doesn't offend you right? As these are just animal noises.

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      • Don't know about the Cap'n, but that made me laugh.

        (I'd also be laughin' if you said it to me, since that would mean you done been necrophiliacin' on a woman dead more'n 20 years.)

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  • I had a white friend that tried that , I was charged with assault and he suffers from migraines due to the beating .

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  • It might be he is using it as slang for bro or friend. If he is using it to be a jerk like say "you are N word since you leave your garbage out too long" no it's not normal. He might have got the Impression you cool with it. Ask him politely to stop and try not to say it yourself jokingly. Since people often get the impression this is a COOL way to talk. A lot of people use it in the way you would homie/Bro/friend.

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  • did you tell them to stop?

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  • That's funny. I can't believe you didn't pop him the first time. The dude has it all wrong. I don't know any white people that would think that's a term of endearment.

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  • Not much of a friend then.

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  • It's not OK that he's doing it because he's white and you're black. It's that old deal with why it's OK for blacks to call each other the n word but not whites. You know that you're definately not insulting someone by calling someone what you are yourself. But when you call someone something that you aren't, you may still not be insulting them but there's also a chance you might be so it's a riskier move. The fact that the white guy is friends with you though means that he most likely does not have a problem with being friends with someone of color, so he probably doesn't mean any harm and he is calling you the n word in a teasing way, although it's a risky thing to tease about even though he has no bad intentions.

    But since you have said it's starting to bother you, you need to tell him that, and if he doesn't respect that wish, then he is being a prick and you need to find another friend. Also, make sure he never says the n word out loud when you are around any of your black friends or family or then he's really asking for trouble.

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  • Well from my perspective, assuming that you've never confronted your friend on this, he may be more comfortable since he seems to think you don't mind. Honestly how is he meant to know if it's offending you or just plainly pissing you off? As for if all white people are like this, NO. One colour never always acts the exact same way, nor does any race for that matter. I myself am white and call my friends stereotypical names and insults as jokes, they know this, they do the same, I know that they're joking. So please, just tell your friend, it's not that hard. If he understands then good, if he doesn't then fuck him.

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  • if you complain he will just find a new ni99er. are you fucking him?

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