Foster home virgin

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I'm a 45 year old virgin. My parents were killed when I was 5 and grew in foster care. Some of my foster parents abused me violently. I still have cigarette burns on my back. In school I was made fun of because I would wear the same clothes over and over and sometime I would smell like garbage from having to sleep with dogs outside. After 18 I left the system and ended up homeless working here and there for food. Never had a relationship , don't laugh but I consider myself a loser. I did survive but I never got a chance to really fall in love. But now I seem to have stabilized my life and really want to explore relationships. Is this normal? I'm not a bad person. Since I've been blessed with a jobs I love to volunteer at the homeless shelter to help people that I know what they are going through. But still I'm very shy and I'm in love with this woman, but I have no guts to come up to her and tell her I want to go out for a coffee. I'm really posting this to find out what can do. To find out is this a normal situation and has anyone experience this?

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Tell her you want to go out for a coffee

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    • jinx5543
      6 years ago

      works every time •…•

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      • rayb12
        6 years ago

        what else are you gonna do. No its not a guaranteed shot, but it is a significant increase in a shot over doing nothing

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  • jimbo35
    6 years ago

    It's normal enough given how you were raised, but you also have to push past your fear at some point.

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  • BELLOEDO14
    6 years ago

    Sorry for what u went through. . Am proud of you for overcoming abuse n rejection. . U r special young lady.
    Please remember that. .!!!!

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    I don't think anyone who has experienced homelessness ever really gets over it emotionally. They can be very successful but it always sticks with you. Embrace it and delight in the fact thay you overcame something so painful and difficult. Ask the woman out and be yourself.

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  • Spiderkill234
    6 years ago

    I'm quite shy as well.Try to become friends get to know her better. Get so your comfortable around her.Then as you get to know each other your relationship may grow.Trust me I've never gotten a girlfriend but I made some wonderful friends from doing just that.

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  • edreams
    6 years ago

    your life experiences are yours that make you, you. I can say being shy is normal. You have to ask yourself if you really want this woman in your life and if so take it slow and say hello.

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