Fool me once shame on you?

What weight does the “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me” saying hold to you? My partner lied to me about something and then came out with the truth the next day. So im curious if you think that saying holds weight or not. Thank you in advance for your feedback!

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  • I agree wholeheartedly. I think it's important to have good discretion though. You don't want to be too untrusting and it's really bad to trust too easily

    I think shit testing, if done well, is a good way to figure out what to do. For your post, it's definitely wise to be skeptical. I don't know the context, but I'm sure after a few days with mulling things over and "testing the waters" you'll know what to do

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  • fool me once shame on you

    fool me.....wont get fooled again

    -w bush

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  • It's a neatly phrased aphorism, but I don't think it's a good one to live by, particularly when it comes to romantic relationships.

    What it's basically saying is that if someone fibs to you once about anything, you should never again trust them. Not many of us are so saintly that we never, ever lie about anything. And the reality is that it's very challenging to deal with people who are constantly brutally honest, while the careful use now and then of well-intentioned lies is a crucial part of any long-term relationship. Obviously, big lies about screwing around, losing your month's pay at the track or constantly proclaiming that you hate Billie Eilish when actually you're a huge fan can seriously damage faith in a person, but there is such a thing as benign and even positive lying.

    You say that your partner admitted that he'd lied to you soon after he had, and I think that's a significant fact. If he did this unprompted by you, then he deserves a Brownie point or two for that as well. But of course the most important thing is what exactly he lied to you about. If he confessed that, contrary to what he said at the time, he thought your butt looked absolutely ginormous in the outfit you'd been wearing, that would be one thing. If he admitted that the rumours you'd heard were actually true and he did indeed become the father of five children by five different women over a one year period a while back, that would be a somewhat different situation.

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  • It all depends on what I was fooled with on the first go round. That might have been a game ender.

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  • Yes if you were tricked once that's no fault on your part. If you yet fooled a second time then that's your fault for not seeing a trap in the first place.

    I'm at a point where I see practically every faction/group having a larger game to play. Which I suppose is just life in a nutshell.

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  • Yeah I agree with this. Sometimes it’s usually held to what the scenario/situation it’s being held up to - but overall you let someone get away with whatever once and they usually don’t learn overnight so it’s on you if and how you choose to follow true if/when it happens again.

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